Updates (May 19, 2026) Part 2

Dating and number of relationships and nationality.

When I am socializing with Canadians, the number of past relationships matter 9000 to 1 million %.

In Southeast Asia, the number of relationships in the past are questionable 0 – 100%?

Some families in Vietnam expect their daughters to have no boyfriends before dating you for marriage.

While some daughters say, more boyfriends the better in the past so you are ahead of the curve in education, experiences and life.

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I used to think so too, more physical relationships the better. But God and feeling ‘dirty’ stopped me. Hearing about past partners and gossip ruins everything naturally especially when you are university educated in the First World with access to all schools, and possibly all jobs as a 2nd Generation Vietnamese born in Canada. Am I right?

I can work as a technician or mechanic without all this trouble because it feel wrong. I think you should protect God rather than go, go.

Is God everything?

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Are we living in a nuclear war, money is scarce and everyone is competing nonstop for that Fortune 5 company job. Networks matter and who you know determines everything in life? External life is everything???

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Or is life in Canada whatever? Especially for Vietnamese born in Canada … I can not speak for immigrants.

Take your time and believe in God? This looks good.

God is what to you?

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So you are shopping at your local superstore in Ontario, Canada and you see a nice young opposite sex person shopping for bread, butter and eggs. You can tell that person never really had a relationship before.

So A or B:

A: You disregard them and think one day they will become a skank and be like every other person.

B: Hate yourself wishing you only dated that one girl in high school/college that was your first and dealt life with her forever?

C: Think about God and yourself now because the world is crazy full of problems, stupid ideas and traps that spiral to Hell and then into the dark void of the universe?

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So what do you do in Canada with it supports, amenities and library and fresh clean water?

Waste it?

Ignore it?

Believe in God?

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So I had relationships before …

The problem I realize is that only 2nd Generation Vietnamese born in Canada understand me and like me to the core of my ‘Vietnamese-Canadian’ identity.

But there is a problem, what about life in the bigger context?

Life in Oshawa or life in the Vietnamese community in Canada?

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The kids of 2nd generation Vietnamese born in Canada have problems. Usually it requires an fiery immigrant to marry the 2nd generation Vietnamese born in Canada to have a full outside external life work, travel and family.

But 99.9999% of those immigrants born in Vietnam are independent, had relationships, only have lived in Canada for 30 seconds in Canada and have not succumbed to the hate and racism and talk back of white ‘Canadians’ which is probably a good thing as diversity matters to move the train. Cheap labour, under the table dealings and payments, special family and friends connections …

They think they are right in 200% of conversations which drives the economy forward.

What do you do as a Canadian? Do you marry another 2nd generation and run back to Asia to restart the process as the immigrants are tooooooooooo powerful? Run a language school? Run a Western Fusion bakery?

You end up divorcing after having a child who grows up age 7 as the immigrant wife needs and demands are first. Your immigrant ex-wife expects you to run for medical healthcare Cancer specialist President at the biggest hospital in your region while the locals you grew up with in Canada want you to clean.

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So yeah, after fighting the neighbours and community I realized all this.

Time to open a Fusion cafe and bakery in Asia.