Updates (Oct 25, 2025)
So in 2021, I finally made the jump to talk to Vietnamese in Toronto after 37 years in Durham Region.
5 years later I realized the Vietnamese born in Canada are on a their own wavelength.
Tony Tie from Ajax and I talk like we have known each other for 40 years every since reconnecting back last year in 2024.
Tammy Nguyen from Toronto thinks I am just another Vietnamese guy born in Canada after she befriended me in 2021.
So that means I missed out for 37 years not talking to Vietnamese born in Canada???
We are all living our way which is just another way like other groups.
That means I should not be bothered when other groups label me. It is just another groups way of living. I finally learned this now. Different groups have a different way of living including mine. And if they do criticize, it is just a critique.
But again, we are all working and living to get through the day and better ourselves??? Get some external validation and new layered growth …
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Does living in another location benefit you or it is just a different lifestyle?
I think it is just a different lifestyle at the end. After 2 – 3 months you are actually quite a native in your residing city.
After living in the same spot in Scarborough for 6 month in 2019 – 2020 doing school, people are people, life is life. In the same city, all of us shop at the largest supermarket that is open late in the middle of the city. We all get upset if our produce goes bad. We get upset when we miss the bus. We get upset when we miss the window. But did your actions before have any effect ??? …
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Will living out West be good for me??? My frequency did not change completely to be a person born and raised in Oshawa. I am stressed still after 17+ years in Oshawa at 41 years old. I am still partially an Ajax person and a tiny, tiny bit of a Scarborough person.
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Did doing what I did for the past 5 years have an effect on me?
Yes because of 3 reasons mainly:
- Maths grew me up so much that I can think logically out of most things including adult problems. I created stuff with the team that made me noticed unexpectedly. I was just doing my thing …
- Making friends with people from the ‘Old World’ broke all stereotypes. World pen pals are the most important to completely change your views.
- Making friends with Vietnamese born in Canada gave me the line in to not think about race like we normally do. 100% stress relieve from thinking in color all the time. Talk freely like you are in the same room. This is good and bad … Everyone knows that. You are suppose to think universal but knowing the group mentality is actually real but should not be solid.
After getting recognized doing my thing with the team, things changed a lot at year 5.
But if I never did what I did I would be stressed and sick or worse.
There might and might not come a time when you actually live for yourself and do the things you want to give you that life and energy. Some people are trapped in cycle.
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Doing what I wanted and getting recognized is bothersome … I did not expect this or want this.
I guess I have to switch gears like my father said before constantly. My father says I should live intelligent but with my own philosophy. Enjoy a couple outside coffees and some reading materials. Gradual slow learning fun and relaxing life. And just have enough to live on, just a speck, so I can live OK. No need for anything really. Just read history, biographies, autobiographies and philosophy books for your entertainment and work OK. Slow burn … Also because I am from an area that practices Buddhism I should live more balanced but slightly forward.
My father said before I did all this work for the last 5 years, I should live like him so no one bothers you and can enjoy the ‘middle life’.
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When I was in high school in Ajax, I would walk the 2nd path to high school. I would past the Animal Veterinary Clinic.
I always thought it was different. Different from taking care of people and different from worrying a lot.
After learning this and that at my age now, I now understand why people have pets and would work to take care of them.
Life is all about maturing to a point where your life is peaceful. I also have family friends in Ajax that are veterinarians that foreshadowed this 25 years ago back at a huge picnic.
When you have experienced and learned enough about life and education and external growth, then you choose a life of peace maybe.