Updates (Sept 22, 2025)
How did ‘Harry Potter’ author J.K Rowling succeed ?
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You go out on a tangent. “Your tangent”.
Keep working on it and zoning out on it.
Realize the outside world is generally ‘negative’.
Knowing that, you zone out more and believe in your craft and keep at it.
You keep going and going … eventually you got some solid thing.
You know how negative things are. The more you develop your ‘book’ and go outside, you realize you need think of the world as distant and ‘that negative’ object. Then you go further in developing your craft and ideas knowing and learning from the ‘growth and negative cycle’ of this life. Grow from developing your craft and ideas and grow from the negativity outside. Cycling this all the time.
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Vietnamese born in Canada have this problem … I think.
We are born native to North America.
We have this idea of how people should be treated from American movies and media.
If you have international friends from Britain and Russia then you realize Vietnamese born in Canada think North American and not really Western European really.
British and Russia are on opposite sides of Eurasia.
From my interactions with British and Russia, they are open and are in good spirits.
All my Vietnamese born in Canada are quite negative I think and think about race a lot.
I have this feeling people born in North America think divided and have this “fight”.
Being born in North America we are born thinking indigenous to North America like the first peoples.
What were the first peoples like? From my learning over the past 40 years it is also conflict previously and after Columbus. You feel it in the air.
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So how do you live good in North America as a Vietnamese person born in North America?
It is new? Vietnamese in great numbers came to the West after the Vietnam War.
There were previous Vietnamese scholars in the past before the Vietnam War and they got educated to travel to world universities.
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What scared me growing up was not meeting Vietnamese people like me in Canada.
There was this North American Westernized thinking that “we are Vietnamese” which was not presented positively most of the time. It was looked down upon usually.
Then after I read about Vietnamese history a bit and socialized with tons of Vietnamese, there isn’t anything wrong or bad about being Vietnamese.
Vietnamese people in Vietnam are an independent nation that still exists because we do work with other countries near and far.
The negative angle is just something that mainly North American thinks is because they are “North Americans”. Thinking of divide, polarization, conquer and race.
In Ukraine, Vietnamese have a nice community that helps each other out.
Depending on who you interact with there is different perspectives on lifestyle and growth in different parts of the world.
Pham Nhat Vuong the founder of Vingroup went for more education in Russia and developed a company in Ukraine. With his life experience and education he built Vingroup in Vietnam.
What does that say? What does that say on the world stage?
Different areas of the world can develop you.
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Good question for Vietnamese born in Canada …
How do you act and behave when you meet other Vietnamese born in Canada?
My family used to avoid Vietnamese in general until 2021.
I knew I had to make up for my absence and worked to build external value based on what I felt Vietnamese culture is about. According to traditional Vietnamese culture from the North you got to “tậu trâu, lấy vợ, làm nhà”. This is what I learned from Son Nguyen.
I was building till 2021 and then presented my works to the Vietnamese community in Toronto.
Then the rest is written in this blog. I did more things and kept developing this blog explaining the processes.
So was I scared of other Vietnamese? Yes. The old traditions kept me busy for decades subconsciously and consciously until I developed something true to myself.
I knew I needed to connect to my homeland culture. I knew someone out in the Vietnamese community in Toronto I could connect with one day.
Tammy Nguyen befriended me and grew me.
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Intuition …
Everyone knows the old ways of life of 1500 AD just works good and right. Pre-Columbus. The feeling is in your genes …
I have friends exploring new avenues of growth in the modern era. They become stressed I think and live quite dangerously???
It is so tiring and not deep, deep like soloing on your own for years.
Life is all 1000000000000% intuition. You should work and study before there was Internet and mass media kind of.
Like make Internet and mass media so minimized that it doesn’t really affect your ‘humanness’. Like it can but somehow make room for real stuff. Make time for you and your individualized growth.
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Immigrants versus natives …
I am born in Canada so I have 2 things going on:
- I think Canadian a bit. Not entirely. I think ‘my way of Canadian’ at my core.
- I sometimes think like my father and mother who are immigrants.
What does that do to a child of immigrants?
You avoid immigrants and cultural events because deep down you are trying to:
- Enjoy being and thinking Canadian with all it’s perks.
- Living solo like a Canadian. Have that independence and lifestyle.
Immigrants give you 2 types of shock:
- Cultural shock. Their customs can be refreshing and bothersome at the same time. It is nice to see different cultures.
- Economic shock. Immigrants just work. They state and judge people based on stereotypes from the 1800’s so things are polarized and move like it was in the industrialization era.
There is absolutely nothing working with that. But because I am born in Canada, I only can really get along and grow further with people born in Canada. The immigrants teach you 1800’s grit and growth of learning at the beginning because outside has this “boundary”. You got to toughen up and get the degree and skills and the cultural viewpoint to go over the bamboo ceiling or work your way around it.
So immigrants teach you solid facts about life which are:
- The old cultural way teaches you the necessary skills and knowledge to learn maths, engineering and psychology to overcome anyone. You learn and do things for yourself first. I learned the engineering skills first from immigrants as I am a coloured person first. Each country stands alone in the world, that means each country knows how to think their way to survive in the world really. That is what I learned from immigrants. I was so passive before. I learned it was maths first.
- After learning from immigrants, I work with other people born in Canada and go. Then I teach the skills and experiences to immigrants and their children. There has to be go-go. You can not stagnant and just work in your own group. If you don’t go-go you simply fall. Trickle down.
But again everything is confusing … I only get along with Vietnamese born in Canada at the end.
The duality of thinking Canadian and as an immigrant makes us connect and socialize.
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Another reason why I get away from immigrants as I have gotten older …
As a Canadian, I need my time and energy to think and live my way so I live good here in Canada without bothering the masses.
Immigrants can push your buttons thinking their opinion only matters.
But after 3 – 5 years in the country, immigrants do loosen up and ‘think Canadian’. After they turned ‘native Canadian’ then they simply just live for the sake of a Tim’s Double-Double coffee and a donut like me LOL!
Immigrants have that fight mechanism where they are sizing you up in the first 1.8 seconds after you enter the room.
But that is the cycle of life in North America. We need immigrants to think 1800’s polar and fight for all work to keep Canada populated and running. My parents did the same and worked hard to keep a house and businesses running.
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What happens at 41 years old …
It is all intuition … getting old and doing stuff.
I knew if I gotten old doing my thing naturally, I would have some control over my life.
Born in Canada you simply just want to live most of the time working services jobs and have a small family of your own. Your children would also do work in the services.
I did not feel comfortable working services jobs because I lacked the genetic experiences of living and growing up in a modern society for generations I think. My parents do have some education and a lineage, but I don’t feel the education and experience in my bones. Am I suppose to feel something naturally? Or is how I feel taught through socialization in the West?
The lack of confidence in myself both feeling and history, made me study to now.
But in another perspective, I was born and raised in Canada feeling bad about myself.
My immigrant parents are solid like rocks because they don’t have the West telling them how to think and feel growing up. Vietnamese for history stood against other countries for thousands of years. Vietnamese born and growing up in Vietnam don’t lack confidence.
So I guess born and living in Canada made me this way?
In my circumstance what do you do to have confidence and a successful family of your own? Move back???
Am I suppose to have the mindset to overcome every hurdle living here in Canada?
The solution really regardless of everything is I just play with my friends and do my thing in my zone … That is how it goes in this circumstance???
People who come from developed countries and move to Canada have this chip on their shoulder … It sometimes helps and sometimes doesn’t in the long run.
Life is so complex that at the end of the day … it is usually the person that lacks the most has to do stuff to survive and feel good. And that makes the businesses run better and more efficient.
That is just how the world works I realize now.
I gotten education and did stuff simply because I was lacking and didn’t feel good. And that is normal according to world history.
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Today is 2025 … I am in my 40s at 41.
I always knew via intuition life would get better when I get old. And it did …
I have been listening to all sorts of music growing up.
While online the Internet, I heard of Mizter Bonezz: https://www.facebook.com/mizterbonezzmusic/ He is DJ and music producer making one of the best music I heard with very complex sounds and arrangements that it works with me.
I listen to his music all the time.
Take a listen.
I knew when I got old, the ‘old thing’ of life would come into play …
Now I understand people, now I understand music, now I understand lyrics.
Being old and finally playing your cards right opens a world of understanding, growth and socialization in old mutual respect like your parents are in and other senior people. You get in that wavelength of your parents and seniors so everything is understood and fine. Getting old is great!
Getting old in your 40s especially allows you to socialize on a level where you are helping people and opening doors for the younger generation. You get to talk on a level where it is just old adages. That is life in your old age.
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When you get to think like your parents then everything is on the good-good.
Wait it out and then you realize you don’t think that different from your dad or mom and everything is fine for the rest of your life?
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I guess life was to write, journal and express.
In my case write a blog for myself to solve the problem of new immigrants like Vietnamese like me in the country of Canada.
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What you realize at around after 40 …
There are established Vietnamese companies and people that are around my age and a lot younger.
When they finally have kids of their own they realize the connection and support of fellow Vietnamese is important. Support from other Vietnamese becomes very special kind of.
Then everyone realizes life is more about supporting each other more now and the future of everyone.
This is an old thing. Hitting 40s and seeing younger Vietnamese people having kids.
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