Updates (July 6, 2025)

After writing out everything I feel in this blog … I feel good.

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After feeling relieved, I realize I have to live like my father now and have a balanced life. Just keep busy. Only Vietnamese that are similar to my dad understand how to navigate life in the West like my father.

He is smart but not too smart? He is not trying to be too smart that it becomes a problem … That is all it is.

It is balanced to live in the middle for ‘Zen’ like approach to life with people in society.

Not indulging in seeking to be rich, powerful or too smart for your own good.

That is all it is.

Also because he is South Vietnamese and from the area that practices Phật Giáo Hòa Hảo and from the Mekong River area where it grows everything, he is naturally balanced.

I heard one day, sons turn into their father.

As I accomplished quite a bit and see the vices of having too much, I now understand my father.

Like you still learn and do stuff but don’t go sooooooo fast and forward in it that it is what you seek as a priority. Just live busy and Zen.

You can actually live Zen in Canada.

That is what I feel and see.

But in reality, I had to go so far out learning for 41 years to see how things are in the West.

That is the dilemma of kids born to war refugee parents who don’t seek the 200% forward Western tech life.

But really you have to keep learning somehow.

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My father has his own life and focuses on himself and his things he loves. That is also the key in a balanced healthy long life. He worked the farms when he was still in elementary school and grew up to have a broad understanding.

Usually farmers that work when they are young for survival and bridge to developed countries to live and work understand the balance but not really. If they don’t go into engineering then they don’t know the top of the pyramid. And that is a problem for their children.

So I had to go far into my world of tech to see it for myself and that is why it took so long. Luckily I had Tammy Nguyen to show me the way.

But for a foundation, if you have a passion and individual goals, just work on that on your time without the worry of others or competitors first.

Then you go to hard work like web development.

Then you see the top.

And then live Zen but still do stuff.

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Because I think I understand the top, I live busy + Zen.

Basically I am living balanced like a South Vietnamese from the Mekong River really. I avoid so much front thinking now.

I am trying to be balanced now by just keeping somewhat busy.

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My father is still keeping busy working and learning. And that is all that matters.

He is in his own zone and doesn’t bother no one. That is the approach he does.

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Climate and geography of me … over thousands of years.

I come from the Vietnam where it has UV radiation like Nigeria and Colombia. I come from the Mekong River. Also I am pretty far South in Vietnam so that means I am almost last in line. So that means I actually have to think broad and more than others and really know how to talk and get along with people …

But what does this mean in Canada?

That is what it is …

I have to live and work that way???

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At the end for me is as long as I find a way to keep busy, then everything is fine.