| What do I like doing naturally alone at home? | I read Google news, surf RedFlagDeals for deals, socialize with my same age friends on RealHardwareReviews Discord, post deals to my friends, socialize with my friends learning more about life and people, stopped coding for now |
| What do you enjoy? | I like being alone when I was young. I kind of still do. I like eating chips and soda alone and like to blank out. |
| How is it living in Canada for you? | I am Southern Vietnamese by my parents but born in Canada. I am neutral really because I come from An Giang province where they practice Phật Giáo Hòa Hảo and everything grows in abundance. I am very light skinned. I have it better off than most coloured people because I am partially Westernized thinking naturally. Things are on the positive side really. Nothing to really complain about. |
| How do people treat you now? | Depends on the group. Society is divided more these days as the population becomes more multicultural which is normal. I get along with everyone but I am very Westernized naturally which is bad in current times. Vietnamese usually get along with Western people. I have to force and choose to get along with non-Westernized people these days so everyone is treated fairly. I have to push and think non-Western these days as more and more multicultural Canada becomes. I have to think coloured these days really. |
| What kind of jobs do people want you to have? | Because I am partially Westernized naturally and light skinned and South Vietnamese, the current ‘young population’ wants me to work manual labor jobs out of public eye. They don’t want to see me in working in public. Old people don’t care as they know everyone has to grow and be a man and develop and evolve inside. The current ‘young’ public expect me to behave like the negative Vietnamese caricature stereotypes from the 1970s-1980s during the Vietnam War era here in Canada so they feel good and have something better than me. They don’t feel I deserve to be treated better than them which is understandable. As I develop becoming a man it gets worse outside in public. As I age, I get old and wise looking but generally people don’t like that. The outside culture likes everyone to act and behave young and restless really. Again it depends where you live and work. Basically you are supposed to follow the mainstream culture. But really you are supposed to live balanced with everyone so you don’t get in trouble and have just enough as a South Vietnamese like my father. All you need is a ‘speck’ here in Canada to get along. |
| What has changed since 35 years old after mid-life crisis? | After working with Vietnamese mostly born in Canada, I became accomplished. I learned about world history and the reasons why I get treated this way. Because I became recognized for my individual personal growth, I have become an individual man like every other man getting old in the West. Solving my personal unique issues was the solution. Becoming recognized was everything. I solved my Western born human experience. It was to be externally validated by being by being intelligent, solving a ‘me’ problem and getting recognized like everyone else really. But people in society want balance so I get treated bad from the beginning of time. When I learned about why Vietnam exists then I understood all the bad treatment I get. I have to get along with everyone here in Canada to function at the end after. I had to get smart first then now blend out. |
| Why did people treat me bad growing up in Canada? | Vietnam exists as an independent country that works with Western people mainly. Vietnamese think open but still independent. Other nationalities don’t like that because they have it worse or different. At the end of the day, people forget it depends on climate … People want everyone the same and balanced. |
| How do I get treated as a Vietnamese in Canada by the majority? | Because both my parents are South Vietnamese making me South Vietnamese, I naturally work and think with Westerners. Westerners see the South East Asian in me and we get along. Westerners actually feel sorry for me so they give me work and things to do and we collaborate. I rarely think otherwise because I just come from 2 different social classes in South Vietnam. My mom is from an educated class while my dad is the farmer class mainly. |
| How do Vietnamese from Vietnam treat you? Initially and now? | Initially Vietnamese from Vietnam treated me dumb because I went with Canadian mainstream culture kind of. Like I wanted to do stuff but also just wanted to just simply live. They told me to fight and do my dreams regardless of anyone or anything. So I listened to them and did and got accomplished somewhat. But to get a job in Canada is based on other things really too like need. As I am Canadian born with all the supports, I don’t the good work for PR or citizenship. I don’t deserve a CEO position or high professional career really … I can only get work working with Westerners doing hard jobs like web development. The only job for me is solo web development as that makes sense as it is unlimited in the ‘Western perspective’. As a Canadian born person that is how you learn to view things growing up here in Canada. Every kid born and growing up in Canada knows and feels this. |
| Do you talk to Vietnamese from Vietnam? | Not really. I have quite a bit of friends on FB from Vietnam. They highlight their lives on posts. I see what they are doing and can learn and feel and experience what they are doing. Immigrants can actually show how they think and attack problems in Canada. It is great that they have their own different thinking that can help others including me. People born in Canada usually have one train of thought and that is just constant work and keeping at it I think. Immigrants sometimes show different angles. |
| Why don’t you work with Vietnamese from Vietnam here in Canada? Like open a business here in Canada with immigrants? | Most Vietnamese from Vietnam who come here are independent. They strive a lot for themselves for their ego. That is in the Vietnamese culture and spirit. Their expectations are huge sometimes and different that I can not deliver. As I have lived slowly the Western born way, my goals are different maybe and slow to develop. I am usually also doing my own thing and it doesn’t align with Vietnamese from Vietnam thinking wants and needs. My goals are very Western my way. |
| What jobs can you do really with ease? | Sales and service. Some manual labour and construction. |
| What did you want in life growing up? | Work with computers alone in the comfort of my own space. |
| What has changed in form of work? | Now that I am old and understood the why people get sick and tired, I have to live a balanced life now for a balanced life really. People get sick because they don’t grow to learn coding/physics/math so they can solve everything and build everything they need and want themselves. They have to grow to have a logical brain and a building brain to solve their problems. And they need to be recognized to feel that famous feeling. Once they have those 3 things they should be OK with stuff and still be able to adapt and live good. |
| How do you really have it? | Because I think the way I do, I am adaptable with people and give up and share authority. I am able to grow with people and collaborate. |
