Updates (June 22, 2025)
FreeTimeTech solved the problem of having a tech website for our own tweaking software and own articles based on mainly Ben ideas and some of my ideas on one website. Mostly about Ben.
BenchTweakGaming solved the problem of tweaking PCs for faster performance and tweaking games for more customization and more FPS by reducing graphic settings not found in the main settings menu of games for free. Tweaks are made to be more open by showing the config files being edited.
FirstGenProgrammer solved the problem of me being born Vietnamese in the West and understanding the complex nature of life in the West. People don’t see me as a Vietnamese refugee/immigrant fresh off the boat and see be born in Canada just carefully navigating growth knowing about my looks and race. I have to live Western to maintain health and growth so that everything remains OK and balanced.
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Everyone is at a different stage in life.
Some people fight and argue at most but everyone is at a different stage in life.
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The solution to everything in my life was to learn more and be more through coding. Coding helped everything and made me open to debate and solve all problems. It was just learning at the end but mainly coding as it is the ultimate learning I think.
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The solution to life is just to learn more
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When you get stuck and in a rut, you just socialize outside and learn more. But this is after you learn coding.
Before learning coding I thought dismay and destructive.
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What does women really want?
If women are mature and experienced life already, they seek power and knowledge in the background while having a normal life. They enjoy the accomplishments and having their partner have and gain recognition doing good things like build software but don’t make it a priority. Living a balanced life really with normal things taking time. Like 1 accomplishment is good enough in 1 field. If a women wants more then that is unacceptable as that is unsustainable.
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Coding takes time … some people think coding is just +1 skill that takes 2 years to do in college but it is not, it takes decades; a lifetime …
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If you are born in Canada, this an accomplished life but living normally may come naturally as you just live day-by-day learning and being civil and open and neutral?
Tammy Nguyen just expects life to have everything like this and enjoy life really.
That is a incredible mindset Tammy has. She looks at me from the top.
I wanted to prove to her that zoning out doing my thing could bring something. It did.
It was unique.
It was a great accomplishment for me.
But that is expected for children of refugees to do if their parents are still around and performing the right roles.
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Support still?
Even when I was mid 30s, my mother still supported me to do what I liked. My father still worked and waited for his children to grow up.
This is bad and good.
The support allows me to get educated. But I rely on my parents still for work and housing.
But this allowed me to get this far educated.
I am alone in this really. I won’t inherit nothing so that is why I studied while my parents are still around. And it kind of worked.
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I realized what type of guy I am now after socializing with Tony Tie.
Growing up I did not feel good.
When I went to do healthcare in Scarborough in 2019, it also did not feel good being just the helper. Nothing in my life was going right until I did my own thing.
The point was living for yourself sometimes and exerting all of your energy sometimes to be someone you want in the world.
I became a coder and solved most of my problems of self-esteem and knowledge and knowledge acquisition. Son Nguyen showed me the Vietnamese way of always improving yourself regardless of anyone because it is true you have to live for yourself.
So I am a guy trying to do something different and unique for myself for self-esteem in this world all the time.
But Tony Tie is a business guy solving the problem of finding the right things to do and say for people in sales and marketing. He is finding that root cause of peoples problems.
For example, he solved my problem of just finding normal work to do so I can have a normal life AFTER doing my thing for the last 5 years or since 2013.
Tony is also old as me so he understand the struggle of trying to be someone in society while having a normal life with family and kids one day.
But my life growing up was odd. I was treated differently because that is the way things are in Canada. Until you get to 35 years old until somewhere in your 40s you stop caring about the way things are in Canada and just live and complete the circle of life. That means after you done your stuff in trying to be recognized you just work and keep busy to be on top of things so you have a life in Canada.
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The odd thing about life sometimes …
When working normal trades jobs, you are tested to know everything and to solve everything on the job. You do this solo really at the site. You have to do and know everything. The more you know in everything the better in work and in life.
But in some other work places, things get odd and people are told to be limit themselves.
Nothing makes sense working in some institutions.
I guess that is the thing about life here in Canada.
Probably it is the way I interact? You can be humble knowing and still be employed? I am not sure.
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How to be employed and have a normal life as a Vietnamese born in Canada?
Tony Tie and his siblings are the best example for me.
Tony manages how to solve problems for people regardless of race or culture. He doesn’t think about race and culture as things to worry about really.
How do you do that for me?
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I think the best way for me to be employed is to work with my family or work in Scarborough or Mississauga among the other Asians.
As the world becomes more multicultural, I think it is best to work in a multicultural setting??? So it ain’t stressful naturally. I think most of the coloured people from my high school eventually worked and lived in multicultural settings. But does that work???
Because I get treated Westernized negative stereotype most of the time, it is painful but not really. In a multicultural setting it isn’t really bad.
Depending on the age of Westerners, they sometimes treat me as a caricature. But when they realized I am old, old they try to treat me open and with the broad stroke of Western ideals which is good.
In the multicultural setting, I get treated based on my homeland country’s rank in the global stage 99.99% of the time. That can be good or bad depending on the people I work with and where they are from. This happened while studying both college and university at Scarborough mainly.
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When a country changes to technology based and also creative, then the country is held positively.
It’s people from all over the world get recognized to be smart, rich people.
That is the thing with multiculturalism. It can be good and bad. But it is still coloured which ain’t so good.
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There is a divide naturally in the world.
Where does it leave me? You got to be universal and open with the people you did not tolerate before naturally.
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What is a good life here in Canada for now and into the future for me?
I only got help like real support and understanding from Vietnamese born here in Canada. Only Canada really.
Working and living any other way did not work unless they are Vietnamese from Canada really. Anything else than Canada doesn’t work.
The Vietnamese born in Canada, know 99.9999% of the ways to live without causing trouble for anyone.
We Vietnamese born in Canada know how to live among everyone after 2nd week of kindergarten here in Canada.
That is the thing. We are born and live in Canada and we don’t cause that much angst because we have the freedoms and thinking like other Westerners taught to us from classmates and teachers in elementary school.
That broad Canadian thinking allows us to feel satiated most of the time. Sometimes we forget we are Canadians too.
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What it is really like after everything???
We got to just go with the flow as that causes no trouble with anyone.
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But you got to live in your culture to have a family I think.
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When I lived in Scarborough I just lived Asian and life was determined by Asianess amoung the Asian crowd.
It worked but also did not work.
It was a baseline.
Among the young people that is all we knew as we are all trying to get along.
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But the real kicker is this in multicultural society …
Once I got smart as some other Asian people, they unfriended me on FB.
Secretly most ‘other Asians’ are ‘Asian racist’ and don’t want to be your friend anymore once you improved your thinking and life.
Basically almost every Asian ‘immigrant’ are secretly competing with other Asians.
Some just vibe and are still my friends knowing everyone will get smart and smarter overtime. But some other Asian groups won’t be your friend or anymore because they have that hierarchy in Asia.
Does that work being Asian and being ‘Asian racist’? No. As people grow and live they normally they outgrow the Asian thinking. Asian thinking doesn’t really hold up when living normally. But it is there.
Being conscious about being Asian doesn’t really help anyone. But it exists in Scarborough and other multicultural areas sometimes. It is a wall actually that prevents thinking beyond really.
But as a Vietnamese born in Canada, it is what I default too sometimes to live in my culture. I guess finding a Vietnamese born in Canada can only relate to me and this and have no conflict.
But only in Scarborough did I learn to think Asian but also strive. Strive to do coding to get away from walled thinking and overcome all low-level bias from the West and East that normally lurks around in the mind to mess with our day. People should treat people nice and equal but really there is subconscious bias in everything really especially if you are coloured.
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How I got along in Scarborough …
There is ‘Asianness’ in Scarborough.
You can act normal Asian and other Asians will connect.
It is really simple like that.
If you are asking for more like degrees, job/careers, and money it doesn’t work once you are PR/Citizenship here.
In college while doing healthcare, I just got along with other Asians naturally without lifting a finger.
So I guess that is real life. You got to live naturally or you won’t have a relationship or family.
Whoever gets along with you naturally behaving naturally is normal and the way.
Not all this studying and working hard till you get something at the end.
The Canadian landscape enables you to think this way.
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When I was studying college, most of the Vietnamese from Vietnam studying college with me avoided me.
They wanted someone educated from top institutions like university and working for money all the time. Not me a college student doing healthcare.
That is Vietnamese culture when they are young and still striving.
Once they are old do they change? I don’t think so because in Vietnamese culture it is also striving and showing off as normal.
I guess only Vietnamese born in Canada understand my life born here. Or if they are old here in Canada for 15 years +.
My life born here is broad as I try to be Western.
You can not have Vietnamese born in Vietnam dictating things for a Vietnamese people born in Canada I think or else everything fails for the Vietnamese born in Canada upfront. Can not demand everything at once.
When Vietnamese born in Vietnam have lived in Canada for 20+ years they know things are gradual and take time. It is mainly the Western ideals and dreams that are front and center for Vietnamese born in Canada so they live good and healthy. Like you can still have dreams that are Vietnamese but someone you have to make it work and grow overall.
Yeah that is the confusing part …
If you don’t live with the Canadian ideals then you will be unhealthy.
Doing your Vietnamese thing is OK. It does grow you eventually reaching Western ideals.
You can practice it in Toronto. That is the thing.
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I understand life now. I got to act my natural way and see what happens.
Getting a girlfriend/wife by acting natural my way first and see that happens and go from there.
There shouldn’t be any trouble if I get a woman born in Canada there is no worries I think.