Updates (Dec 11, 2025)
Then after doing this you realize the big problem my younger cousin told me about months ago when he got married.
In my soul, in my core, in my bones, I come from An Giang where it is prosperous full of life. Lush greenery. Farms, farms, farms. The most agricultural place in all of Vietnam.
When talking to people in Vietnam, you select the person that is good natured. Not dependent on external value. The person should have some farmland/land at least so money isn’t really important??? The An Giang location is plentiful at the top perspective. Lots of produce every season.
But does that really work?
If you are like my younger cousin, life is good.
The culture in An Giang is based on farming. If you have a farm land you are treated like a land owner and that is all and you live OK bothering no one.
I am a farmer naturally. I am Buddhist naturally.
I realized how much I have compared to others when I went home the last 2 times.
I realized I am born in Canada with some New World smart dynamics and in my genes I am a Buddhist farmer with ample energy to farm for the rest of my life. I have it really good even though I am a dark invisible miserable guy in Canada (again 50:50). My farmer genes make me go in the New World.
That is why I am waiting for my brother to come home to unlock his genes and dormant brain cells when comparing and seeing the An Giang culture of the farms and cities. He will work the farms like I did.
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Boat People families have suffered like my parents. Boat people children expect they have to build their own knowledge and way of life in Canada. These are people like Tammy Nguyen and Tony Tie’s family here in Canada.
Tammy and Tony expect me to grow from the bottom up and never expect anything from me. We all talk about doing stuff to feel good and accepted and growth in the Canadian way. It is all ‘Canadian business talk’ talking to Tammy and Tony.
I did learn and grow with Vietnamese from Vietnam in schools here in Oshawa and Toronto.
It is also hard to live in Vietnam too. That is why they shared their knowledge and experiences with me and we collaborated since 2017.
But the clear thing is that Boat People have this characteristic and personality inside that people overlook at first glance. So whatever when talking to most other people.
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Do the comments and criticism from the Old World really affect me and how I run my life?
That is a good question.
I will need to think this through and break it down.
But it depends until you get something.
TBC
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So it took conversations and socializations and relationships with Boat People to solve ‘me’.
Everyone was needed but the Boat People made me connect and fuse and grow. People like Tammy and Tony.
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What is the most stereotypical Canadian man?
To be honest after watching AI generated content, I agree it is this:
A man riding on Moose or Caribou roaming around in the North snowy forest eating snow and maple syrup wearing ample wool warm clothing.
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I like deer, I like snow, I like maple syrup … I like wool clothing. I want to wander around in the North.
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The dynamics of social media and isolation from social media.
My brother is stressed and tired all the time, he is doing entertainment hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, yearly … he is plugged in the mainstream culture. He is doing stuff connected to the world.
That makes him sick and stressed.
Does he need to be plugged in all the time?
Yes and no. Again 50 : 50.
He leads the family being interactive and on top of things here in Canada.
But there has to be a balance.
I disconnected from YouTube and Instagram and most social media to focus on doing my things and it helped relieve stress.
But yes, I see and interact with my older brother who is doing his cool things. It is to the bleeding edge what he is doing I think …
So it is needed.
I guess that is what happens in families.
What I do is minor but also aids a bit.
The oldest children are always stressed I see now. Both my brother and older sister are working hard.
I am doing my thing.
They do more but I aid them in logic in a way. I did what I did. Again it is also a balance. Each person has a place.
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The reason I ask is because without my coding with my team my brother could not do what he did either I think. I did stuff so he comments and criticizes. I am a baseline too.
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He also cares for the younger siblings and family unit as a whole. So without us there isn’t him. Again family relationships and not being married and not having kids made our family who we are.
I guess it is his ego that makes this.
Does he need to learn that he is also Buddhist and nothing really matters too? Like high level Buddhist with high level Buddhist people?
Like being Buddhist but still live OK?
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What my brother and I do from afar …
We build stuff from our years of living.
At 37 and 39 years old in 2020, we finally got old as “old farts” (the moment/’The Click’) and did something that we liked, that addressed our interests and it was different because we just got old.
We understood media our way and ventured on our own with our team with Ben Cybulski, Allan Michael Lane, Simon Fisher and other friends in 2020. And it grew more and more. Everyone is basically included in 2020. A snapshot of media and life at that point.
Mainstream society expects everyone to follow suit. Mainstream society expects everyone to eat at the number #1 burger chain and shop at the number #1 supermarket and grow up grade 1 – 12 and work 9 – 5 after for 30 years at one company. Any outliers are criticized for trying.
But disconnecting from mainstream and not talking to people directly no more, we could do our thing that is old man, ‘old fart’, work to please the finally old soul of growing up Western Vietnamese.
Also being Vietnamese in mainstream society is looked down upon generally stereotypically. But as old 37+ years farts in 2020, mainstream society can not define you no more. Mainstream society’s range is between 18 – 29. Also there isn’t 37+ years old Vietnamese born in Canada farts around because Vietnamese are the latest big wave to come to the West. People try to define you but you never existed before in the West. So whatever …
Mainstream society expect people to act 17 years old until they are 59 years old while shopping, working, basically living normal.
That is not really true when you get to 35+.
You don’t define people the same when you get 35+.
But if you do work 9 – 5 and work normally daily with people face-to-face, you all have to act the same age range of 18 – 29 even for people who are 59. This allows old people to be included and loved.
But my brother and I work alone mostly and together so we grow old and wise like people in the past before mass transportation and before social media. To grow good and good and good is to go into your genes and let the old man grow out and old. It is in your genes to work like its 1500 AD before the New World was really a thing. You must grow wise and accumulate years and years and not act like a teen always connected doing social media. No teen perspectives. This way takes years if not decades to understand this.
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Also my brother and I are millennials so we had Internet after the 1998. We grew up almost 20 years before mass highspeed Internet.
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The problem …
My cousins back home have to immigrate like other Boat People families to the West.
And they have to build stuff their own with their teams.
They will strike it new like everyone else here. Do their own research and interests like every other Westerner with their own angle.
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The problem with life …
You eventually work hard and do stuff you always wanted and probably eventually become integrated in the economics of society???
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If I don’t live in Oshawa with my family doing this and that for Oshawa (I am an Oshawa native), then I won’t have this current dynamic with my friends Tammy and Tony and the rest of the team and won’t build thinking transcendental.
I feel I am working for ‘GM Country’. Living here makes me feel that way.
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The key is that everyone is on their own wavelength doing something at the end.
If you keep pursuing your own wavelength things must develop.
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Having kids is a strategy.
Location of your baby is most important.
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How to live really?
You can live 3 ways here in Canada.
- Listen to immigrants and work with immigrants side-by-side
- Work doing 2nd generation stuff like I was doing
- Work and live like 3rd+ generation Canadians