Updates (Dec 4, 2025)
I had to grow up very cautious …
People born in Canada are walking on a tight rope …
Lots of bad things can be done and ruin you if you don’t stay indoors and read your books and comic books.
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In grade 7, a fellow classmate told me how to live in the “dark cold snowy icy Canada”. This was in Ajax, Ontario. The classmate was ‘Canadian’ and probably his lineage is early to late settlers in Canada.
“Do your work (school work) and read.”
“This is the most negative stance perspective of life in Canada.”
Read and have 1-2 more books on hand … 3 books would be better, 3 would be best.
If you are born here in Canada … we are basically in this together to read books all day to avoid getting ruined …
Books, coffee and tea are nice and inexpensive … Plenty of that to go around. Discount brands taste good and fair.
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Understanding empathy … in the West …
People that come from rich agricultural lands are usually forgotten in society in Canada.
People who from from rich agricultural lands “may or may not” have this mindset … because of rich agriculture they breed more, compete more, work harder to fend for their family and territory. It could look greedy one way or another??? They are often darker in complexion. It is a combination of these factors in the West that certain groups treat you good or bad, with empathy or not. But in Vietnam I am just another dude.
In my case, I am from An Giang province who was born in Oshawa. The land of ‘GM’
That means I had abundant food in Vietnam but at a cost of competition maybe … People in An Giang farming area are usually really dark in complexion.
So now I realize why I am forgotten in society in Canada and have to work with similar frequency friends all the time in the background.
There is a constant need to work and improve to stay in the game as a darker person. And that is just life. If you don’t move then you …
But why am I kind of lazy? What is this lazy, despair, sad lonely component I have? Must be the dynamic of being North American born 2nd generation …
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People label me Vietnamese generally which is mostly bad stereotypes here in the West.
But I am from An Giang province right on the Mekong rivers so I have to constantly work to provide farmed goods for the rest of Vietnam and the surrounding countries for the last 400+ years when Vietnam moved southward. I don’t know my history before that.
Central and Northern Vietnam need Southern farmed produce. There is an exchange.
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So there is this dynamic of being Vietnamese I understand now …
Because Vietnamese have it good and bad as a junction country.
We are South Asian and East Asian … making us Southeast Asian situated in Southeast Asia with all the bad stuff about being Southeast Asian.
Secretly (subconsciously) people know deep down their reptile brain that darker more far away people from the UK have it tough but also …
In Southeast Asian, the darker more and more closer the people are to the originators of the land (original inhabitants or long-time inhabitants), know how to deal with foreigners intruding on their land and are hardworking and can usually find their way around the mess and boundaries that others put up as everything is an act of survival, impression, lessons and tag.
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Only when you have grown with a group of similar people then you can live balanced and play some tennis.
I grew up with two groups since 2017. The Vietnamese from Vietnam going to school in Oshawa and Vietnamese in Toronto (Mississauga, Downtown and Scarborough).
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So there is this thing I realize with mature Vietnamese from Vietnam.
Vietnamese from Vietnam women know after awhile living in North America that culture and race are different and OK. But after dating and exploring the vastness of North American personalities they do realize somewhat the culture they were born into is OK too. It made them who they are and also made them strong do deal with the world and themselves.
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The dynamics of dating as a Vietnamese … There is the exchange of North and South for the last 10,000+ years.
The more ‘Vietnamese’ a man is, attracts ‘less Vietnamese’ women??? Or is it North vs South, South vs North?
The Vietnamese women are attracted to the dark, solid, old school, Vietnamese man character. The old characters of the past told in folklore.
The Southern Vietnamese man is attracted to the more Northern Vietnamese women.
There is that duality of positive and negative attraction and compatibility.
More Southern looking Vietnamese man is attracted to the looks and personality of Vietnamese women who look more Northern.
But the man must date and marry and have kids with a woman who is located more southward but looks more northward.
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