Updates (August 4, 2025)
I socialized with Tammy Nguyen (Vietnamese born in Canada) more then I realized this …
- We are somewhat a product of being born in the Canada. Therefore how I think and talk is only make sense with other Vietnamese born in Canada. Vietnamese from the USA are competitive and capitalistic eyeing for the top. Vietnamese from USA take things personal. Vietnamese from Vietnam now living in Canada start acting like me once they finish school and have worked 3 years in Canada.
Therefore, I don’t get criticized for being passive, reflective and follow along when with Vietnamese born in Canada.
Because North America including Canada is race-based in 101% of interactions, the methods in place that run North America are the negative stereotypes. Negative stereotypes is what determines everything.
Because I get treated poorly at the get go since I was born here in Canada because of 200 year old stereotypes, only Vietnamese born in Canada feel and see the same treatment towards them. We actually see race and color privileges.
Therefore when talking to Tammy, we let everything slide. It is still OK being treated poorly. Canada is a safe place and they are just stereotypes externally most of the time.
Because of the negative treatment we get sometimes in certain institutions (work/schools/events), we can either get treated ‘good’ or ‘bad’ to keep things in line to keep world stereotypes intact. The goal of some groups is to keep people down.
But this is in accordance to the circle of life. This is to make people cycle and mix.
But it is a problem once people live in different climates and locations. Once they get old, there are just old people walking around … And that is another story entirely.
So now I understand that I just work with other Vietnamese born in Canada to accept the way I am. I am passive, reflective and follow along to avoid problems with people while doing my thing. Vietnamese from Vietnam expect the world when they come here. Vietnamese from the USA are basically Americans with the melting pot thinking. While Vietnamese from Canada live with multiculturalism where it is passive racism at play.
But the problem with my siblings younger and older is that they work with Westerners and don’t play with other Vietnamese born in Canada to just see the levels of how race plays. Tammy and I see race as Canada is multicultural so she accepts the way I act and I accept the way she is too. We play it safe to avoid conflict of interest while improving ourselves with other people born in Canada. Only people born in Canada can accept the way I act regardless of race, culture or nationality.
Now I know who to play with now for that connection and understanding, people born in Canada. There is this understanding between people born here that immigrants don’t understand unless they have been in this country for 20+ years.
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The odd thing about race and nations.
I see Vietnam advertisements wanting Vietnamese from overseas to return home to Vietnam to build the country.
What kind of Vietnamese does that?
With world geo politics in play for the last 10,000 years what is right?
There will always be countries.
There will always be that one person in the country that represents the culture and face who will help evolve the country to modern times while keep tradition.
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What I learned at 35 years old compared to what I learned at 41 years old.
(This is just a blog in which I am growing with Vietnamese experiences. No one should take it seriously because it is from a Vietnamese old guy born in Canada. Some young people take it seriously and that is wrong. It is snapshots of thoughts at certain periods of life of growth)
When I was in Vietnam at 35 years old in 2018 there was this feeling of the West is 100000000000000% better.
But at 41 years old, I learned to live good in the West is to learn, learn, learn (appreciate the education and knowledge that the West provides) while living just whatever and OK. That is the thinking and mindset that I have really. This is what I escape to. You benefit from the freedom of thought and learning and knowledge while living OK with just a speck of things.
That is what my father tells me how to appreciate and have gratitude for living in the West. You can exercise your mind and just live OK.
Basically keep busy doing ‘a job’ and ‘read a lot’ and ‘socialize a bit’ simply daily gradually.
That is why I only really play with Vietnamese born in Canada for the sake of my health. My life is mostly mellow and reflective. I don’t want stress and do not want to go fast the ‘Vietnamese way from Vietnam’.
Going my speed and my way got me the things I gotten …
Some Vietnamese from Vietnam finally see my way as OK after 7 years in Canada.
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Another way to think about life in Canada as a Vietnamese person is to think about your homeland culture really? There will always be countries and there will always be people that like your side of things.
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Socialization dynamics between Vietnamese born in Canada …
We live in a safe environment being born here in Canada. Whatever we say or project out is air and something to reflect about really.
Sometimes it is of grave concern and but most of the time it is just something far away to analyze and work with if you can think that broad.
To be continued … talk about public socialization … and close friends … and living whatever at the core.
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After socialization …
What kind of work do you do to feel good? What type of work do you do to add? What type of work do you do to evolve? What type of work do you do to impress?
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After socializing more with Vietnamese born in Canada I realize we live in Canada and have a safe understanding up lifting channel. I got to think more positive to understand and participate in this.