Updates (July 26, 2025)
My parents lived OK lives in Canada. They had OK jobs.
They had their kids all born in the West.
They still push education for their kids. But their kids still have no kids of their own yet and no really professional stable jobs.
What does that mean?
It could mean 2 things:
- OK jobs are ok to just have a family. Just make kids. Routine jobs make sense at this point and whatever … We live in Canada. Everything should be fine.
- Looking to do professional jobs that thinks too much like specialized research won’t allow you to have a family. The education and research route is too much work. No work-life balance. Even trying to be an entrepreneur is no work-life balance. Parents don’t understand that only the extreme people where 0.001% who love to work 300% sometimes can work and have a family.
I realize this now.
Where do I stand?
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However, it is really fun living the Western way of life as I try it.
If you open your mind and try to broaden it more with other Vietnamese born in Canada then life is like wow and fun do this and that.
But it really isn’t a normal life that is written in your blood/genes.
I guess go back doing routine staple work but have the experience of finally trying hard is what I will do now. It is the experience up to this point that means everything.
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I realize you have to have unlimited support to do anything really …
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What I have done for ‘external growth’ is 2 things:
- Do something different
- Doesn’t make money
What is the aftermath of doing such things? I just lived the Western way of living and doing something different that drives my soul and makes my soul feel good and enlightened.
It took long. Took decades of work.
But is it worth it?
I am healthy and well rested.
Did I do enough? Did I make impact?
That doesn’t matter as I lived the Western way. I have seen other Asians live this way and they are well here in Canada.
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Not living the Vietnamese-Canadian way doesn’t feel good. By just doing what you like and fulfilling your goals and dreams makes you feel all good inside and out.
Therefore the only way to live this lifestyle is to have support from other Vietnamese-Canadians.
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What was life like back in 2015 travelling back to Vietnam for a life and work?
When I was 31 travelling back to Vietnam I was still thinking young. I did not have the foundation of years of work. I did not have the foundation of math and logic and coding. I was missing a lot. I did not past young adulthood. I did not have the old accomplished fight feedback mechanism yet …
Basically I came back to Vietnam as a young adult to see the economic conditions for a life outside the West.
It was hard work. Everyone was working hard to make a living. A lot of people were stressed. People had to work harder than others to keep afloat.
I knew I could not stand it.
I needed to live my way for a life of things I wanted to accomplish. I returned to Canada.
Now it is 10 years later … What did I learn?
I did things the Western way to fulfill the Western feelings in me.
Did I do enough? As long as I keep up this project making with the Sophia projects then everything is fine.
Working on Sophia projects is what really counts as a past time and as something you can do. By keep zoning out and refactoring lots of things are done over long stretches. That is the thing … this project keeps going and getting better. That is what you need in software and in life.
Windows Debloaters by FreeTimeTech.com are different maybe?
The other tools are different too. Windows Debloaters and the other tools are stuck. They are created and fulfilled their roles.
Sophia projects keep going.
Am I missing something?
Is the Costco way the right way here in the West? Canada or the USA?
Or just doing the way Ben intends?
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Back in Vietnam in 2015, teaching for work and a life, there was one problem teaching.
I could not explain to the students why I was back in Vietnam teaching. I had not done what I liked in life at 31 years old.
I did not want to teach as I never peaked.
How can you teach if you don’t like and do something that drives and grows you? The teaching profession must push and show the extreme ends of every life which is some kind of work to the top.
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Odd thing that I found in life, life can be about external validation. You got to do stuff. You got to do stuff at least to satisfy both the people who don’t care and those that care. But that is tiring for me. I just live the way I want so far in my own world with my friends.
Some cultures care so much about external validation and that is a whole new thing you see once you start getting done stuff.
What do you do? You just got to do what you like as you are old.
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