Updates (July 4, 2025)

July 4, 2025 admin

I have to always say this first before saying anything:

I am born in Canada
Work life is external validation
Some people live based on external validation

But …

When I was young in elementary school I did not know about life.

All I knew was I was kind of like everyone else
Western living is the most forward, open and advanced.

Some kids understood everyone is basically the same. The vibe of kids born in the West is that things just take time and everyone is smart and can get along. The differences are just physical looks really.

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The key things I realize now after growing up and hitting goals is that personal goals is what makes life. Addressing your individual unique issues as a Western born person is what makes things. Basically for me, addressing stereotypes.

I help create 3 websites and software that addressed the negative stereotypes that personally affected me to the core. I enabled people to learn regardless if they want to learn or not. That is the trick. Most of the software helps the user or student learn coding anyways.

In the real world, you have to learn everything. When you are old you learn everything.

Just idling you are learning. You are learning regardless.

Even working in a supermarket you are learning everything.

I had problems growing up learning here in Canada. But everyone learns. I even have to learn everything doing construction work with my dad.

That is the messed up thing when you are growing up sometimes. When people are young and unmarried with no kids yet in school, they sometimes think the amount of knowledge you know keeps you in a higher educated class.

But when you start working, you have to learn everything to get the job done quicker to go home for dinner.

That is why I never really stay around school after I worked in real life. I started work in 1998 at 14 and never hanged around school because I realized life already at that age.

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The thing I matured to and realize as a Vietnamese born in Canada:

Everyone will get smart like there parents and parents will chill with other parents knowing that it is ‘it’. Life was to make a child and to take care of children and society.
But you only get there once you have a child a family of your own.
To get offspring is to be ready. To be ready is to address your dreams and problems and once you get that satisfaction of doing solving your problem which is you unique and Western then you are almost ready. You have solved all your big and small problems and became recognized. Your aura shows this when walking around in public that you figured out life as a single person. It was to be yourself and solve your issues of being ‘not intelligent’ living in the Western world. It is all about being smart and adaptable after being ‘young’. If you are coloured then you got to be smart and adaptable like Westerners really. You have to figure out how to be smart and reach them. It is all experiences, working, coding/math/logic and learning all the time and always engaging with people after. You see people as people to work and get along with after you get accomplished and old. You grow to have a broader mind than them sometimes or at least try to enlarge it on the spot without being racist and cultural. It is all learning, learn so much to a point where things are just a learning to do. To do this you learn the hardest things in life which is coding to have that capability to learn and adapt on the spot.
Then you realize life and work and money and wealth is determined by the majority in society.
You accept the life and work you do that is given. Like you still learn and do stuff but work with the majority. What you learn and do and grow might add to what is out there and is different.
Then you find a wife that is born in Canada like you who understand this too. She understands the broad picture of marrying and having children according to what Canada wants.
And she lives your life with your kids.
Cycle continues.

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As a Vietnamese born in Canada, I can only really get along with other people born here because each kid born in Canada has that broad thinking set in them when they were in grade school.

The broad thinking is that everyone is Canadian and we all eventually get smart like everyone else. The thing to do is follow the mixing out.

The cycle then continues.

The idea of dynamism and solving your problems comes into play for each child after in safe Canada.

Anyone who says otherwise doesn’t see the big picture.

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The self-discovery of Vietnamese born in the West from the ages of 20s – 30s is solved once they done exploring these Vietnamese things from Vietnam and in the West:

Foods
World travel
Cultured
Religions
Dating
Working and living in Vietnam compared to the West
Finding a partner to make a family after you got old and lost your youthfulness and have a brain now to understand East and West and are accomplished and have OK work.

Finding a compatible partner is the most growth for Vietnamese born in the West.

You figure out what you like naturally.
You date around testing out different cultures and races.
You realize it is about the inner person for long term compatibility to have kids and to grow old. The person inside you when you were young really.
The most important thing is a normal life after. Your partner should look at life pretty broad like you. Like you look at life like life is nothing much and you two just stroll through life. That means your partner is smart in life. Like they can project to old age with you. Like they are really smart and want to grow old with you.
But the partner must like your life better than theirs.
Then you mix.

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Construction work …

What type of person does carpentry and construction work?

Who understands that type of work and why they live that way?

What type of partner accepts their husband to do construction work in the West?

It is normal paced and stable and continuous and practical.

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At the end, you still got to learn the coding still. You still learn regardless. You can not stop learning when you get to a certain point.

People get sad and want to waste away sometimes after school and after work.

But there comes a point in adulthood where learning is normal and it just does

This happens after so many negative projections and growth from young people.

You get to a point where everything looks stupid when people negatively project to you.

Like you have to grow in the broadest sense.

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Thanks to Ben Cybulski to keep me thinking good.

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I realize after meeting so many Vietnamese people since 2017 from going to college, I had to make something of myself in the Vietnamese traditional way I think for myself:

I tried dating but it never worked out with Vietnamese from Vietnam because they think I think weird. So I stopped talking to them entirely really. I can never get along with them as they are so direct the Vietnamese way. They have to be here 20+ years in Canada to understand my background motives in life. But some get me after they finish school and are working. But they are still on a different wavelength at direct talks. They helped me learn the Vietnamese way but it is so direct that it causes problems as it is so demanding upfront. Demand and way of thinking helps but to get the solutions take time because you got to combine with the heart and the Western goals and mindset. They did help but it is brash most of the time.
I got along with all Vietnamese women from the West. They understood me kind of as they are also lost in the multicultural landscape. I was so stupid at first like everyone is when people from the West return to their culture. I was spoon fed to be not cultural and that made my mind poop. You have to learn both ways from the bottom up. Then I told everyone my personal problems and grew with them since 2021 after joining a Discord VSAs. Now I am grown with more accomplishments with them.
I learned there is the new generation of Vietnamese perspective that helps you grow and live and think about everything. You can get a lot of good things from the Vietnamese community and help grow and evolve things but … see below

The thing is that I was older and was semi-accomplished and experienced in life when I joined the VSAs. I was Vietnamese and did things differently from the norm.

Instead of coming back complaining and weak with nothing. I had quite a bit of life experience in work and growth that was not typical. But that was simply the after affect of getting a lot older. Nothing special really as everyone is special. See below …

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Vietnamese from the West/SouthEast like the growth the evolution of Vietnamese in the West really. Like when you really push past young adulthood of cultural stereotypes East and West and do something new then they really see.

But this was simple for a guy like me and my older brother. We just got really old and there was nothing do to and we explored what was current on the market. That is the trick no one tell you. Just get old and don’t get tied down in the trap of routine work and working like a slave and see what your brain develops being bored and tireless.

That is what Vietnamese from the West suffer when the listen to their parents to go fast and study and work. They forget the dual thinking and longing for world recognition that is Western. The solution is to wait it out and don’t rush really. Like everyone is rushing to get that dopamine but there is a intuitive feeling to wait till you did enough for yourself.

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Social media is good for when you are young.

But there comes a time for a man to be smart and live like 1500 AD so you don’t fall into the trap of failing visuals.

Again it depends on the person.

Most men like to live smart and educated not in the front.

And this makes you very manly smart and it shows.

You improve everything when you live like 1500 AD studying, doing good stuff and helping others.