Updates (May 22, 2025)

Sometimes the patient understands their problems. Sometimes they don’t see it. Some people are sick because life is too hard as they have kids and family all using up their energy and emotions.

I knew when I was young you get ill when you are not feeling good. And feeling good is doing something that has growth and is beneficial to yourself and also helping others.

Sometimes people say doctors are narcissists. I see that now after achieving specialization, specialization in my hobby. You have to be narcissist to take care of yourself I think. I see that in my cousins and aunts and uncles too as I have time to understand extended family. Seeing it in family after you grown and accomplished something allows you to say it is OK to take care of yourself first.

But because I am a man, and also coloured, I have to open up and share it with others what I am experiencing. That only went 1% though.

I finally opened up when speaking to Simon Fisher my brother-in-law. He explained all the feelings of growth, ego and feeling good and stable.

Having outside family show they also have feelings and needs and wants, shows that it is OK to have the same and go for it.

I did not understand and abstained so much because I did not have outside people to talk about it.

Tammy Nguyen showed me the female side. And also how hard it is to be Vietnamese in the West sometimes.

Now I understand life pretty full now I think and can move on.

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Born in the West sometimes you don’t get the full perspective of living in your culture and having alternative perspectives.

While there is the dominant West culture and globalization, there are pockets and lifestyles abroad that can still be livable and are quite fulfilling.

To be honest, living in the West is stressful as you are constantly looking up to the dominant Western culture to learn from and adapt.

But that can me minimized if you just do your thing as your passion should take up all your work time for growth and stability.

You can learn and do more things.

But a teacher of mine told me he was only interested in software and just concentrated on that.

And by that I mean working like Dmitry Nefedov.

Dmitry Nefedov spends his days working as an IT manager administrator and does his projects on his GitHub. His Sophia Projects are very interesting.

He spends time daily looking up the latest changes to the Windows OS and creates software to customize it. He also got so developed and mature as a man that he enjoys refactoring his software.

That is the real cool thing about this. You spend the time to look at updates and make your software compatible with the new features while you learn more efficiency by refactoring.

That is like one of the best lifestyles in the West in tech.

What more can you ask for? Anymore is stressful and literally impossible???

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I speak from the Vietnamese born in Canada perspective at the end of the day. Because I was born in Canada and know how good it is. Majority of Canadian people will ignore me LOL! as what I do is ‘small change’.

But for Vietnamese born in the West, what I do now is quite OK.

And Vietnamese born in Vietnam might ask for more maybe??? …

I lived one of the most safest ways possible for good health and importantly growth. But everyone knows this from the get go really.

All it took was time and patience and understanding everything will be OK (also because I am in Canada). I got that insight to taking a large look at things when I was young and when I went to work at my first job.

Lots of kids rush university and college, but having work experience first cements you to forget about what happens in schools and young life and concentrate on the bigger picture out for yourself. So finding a part time job and working a summer will allow you to relieve all your anxieties about life when you are young.

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Having the forums and places to buy used stuff like Facebook Marketplace is incredibly beneficial and excellent.

The things people sell shows how creative and smart some people are in diverse Canada.

That is why it is so cool to live in Canada.

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That is the thing in life of born and living in the West.

You are supposed to go down the route of school and then try out on your own to achieve something.

If you don’t then, you probably won’t feel good wasting opportunity like that.

It just takes time and experiences. In the beginning it is scary and hard but all you have to do really is think small and routine and practice. Which is hard and will take decades.

That is the hard thing young people don’t know. Until you have done it then you realize how OK it was really. That is why your parents allow you to make mistakes and still support you even if you mess up. Keep that in mind.

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After you achieved specialization, specialization and waited and reflected you become ‘moving’ and don’t think about race or divide no more really. You constantly think about thinking. You become a moving.

My father when he was young thought about philosophy and psychology and about people growing up in Vietnam while working the farm and going to school. He thought so much that he lives forward without thinking about his baseline and still continues to work and think still today.

That is the trick. You are supposed to specialize, specialize that after you rise above general labelling. You just become a old mature thinking person.

That is why sometimes people stop people from thinking as they want people thinking small and divided and sick. But that will only make people think more one day and grow up quicker fighting labelling.

Now I know why some people created problems with me growing up. But it only makes people angry and try harder. That is life.

So you are supposed to specialize, specialize until you only think about ideas and projects. And that is life.

I only understood this when Tammy Nguyen supported me over the years. She supported me to think outside the box.

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The trick to overcome barriers with people is to talk about growth and evolving and creativity.

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Immigration can be good when ideas and solutions create growth and creativity that tailors to everyone.

Even a lone perspective can eventually grow and develop to have something unique that has value.

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The Vietnamese born in Canada are a different breed.

They are comfortable understanding everything.

I reached out so far over the years.

But Vietnamese born in Canada provide me the comfort and well-being and safe thoughts.

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