Updates (May 19, 2025)

Being older and getting in public is odd sometimes.

You meet younger people who only see 25 years of life thinking they know it all.

Then you meet specialized people. And that is all it is really.

You can study and work and have a routine life which is great and normal.

But as an immigrant you may have barriers because you are not in the mainstream group and lack the connections and knowledge and history and problems as others and lack experience and age. Also being born in the West comes with the negative thinking and negative stereotyping of your people and others that may do harm more than good and may send you in the wrong type of thinking.

I talked and socialized with my brother-in-law Simon Fisher and he taught me, at the end of the day “it is what you like to do”.

I did not realize how farther and wider that went as you grow and age in the West.

I thought I was specialized but there is more specialization. The more you do your thing, you get more and more of everything while being happy and super, super focused.

Maybe I am not explaining this right … The more you specialize, things will go into an another “meaning”. You have to experience this as you grow. No longer are you just working. Life takes a whole new meaning that is not apparent at first glance. This experience is not found on social media. This is shared and taught through your friends and family as you grow together.

Being open to doing more and more that is so specialized that only the 0.0001% are doing it is what it is I guess. That growth takes decades.

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But again, what I experience in public is just comparisons and growth. Everyone is at a different stage in life and pace.

As I live in Canada, I should definitely take my time enjoying ‘growth’. That is the thing people are missing. To enjoy growing rather than just have fun and wasting time and money.

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I realized after socializing with Vietnamese from Vietnam in 2017 in college was that once I established Vietnamese connections, it was growth and growing to share and impress your fellow Vietnamese counterparts.

Really that is what sets my heart on fire.

I know how young adults and how my parents think. I don’t know what grandparents think as they are so wise.

Trying to share and impress other Vietnamese is the tick that makes people go I guess as a coloured person.

Every culture knows the limitations of their people naturally as it is written in their genes. Trying to do more and impress your fellow Vietnamese is quite the motivator.

In your culture, you break bread, drink and relax sharing what transpired from working and living in the West when you return to your homeland.

Probably this is the only thing worth celebrating as a coloured person living in the dominant West culture, to share what you accomplished to your fellow man.

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It is hard to think that wide and big.

Therefore, it is just really good to do what you like naturally for the most part.

Learning about the world and understanding new people is nice. But doing your thing will make you happy. This is the Western thinking I think.

But I learned from Son Nguyen it is to just do it the Vietnamese way. Study hard and work hard the Vietnamese way.

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The Vietnamese way I learned from Son Nguyen isn’t about ego or building merit …

From what I learned from Son Nguyen it is to work hard and study hard the Vietnamese way as a way of life. Looking from way above objectively and just improving.

I guess from 2017 till now, life was building relationships and socializing with like minded people who also aren’t like minded.

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Why it is great to live in the suburbs …

It is great to live in Toronto but the growth and peace of mind that I have from living in suburbs enabled me to do unique things that sometimes surprises people in Toronto.

In Toronto, it is somewhat negative stereotyping and categorizing. Some people thrive on the city daily interactions and grow from it living in Toronto.

But drinking coffee in my room, socializing with my group of friends and silence made me go far and unique.

If I did not have that environment, I would probably would not be happy. Living suburban kind of Western lifestyle lead me to having a good life just doing my things without the constant feeling down and feeling coloured/cultured while out in Toronto like I experienced before in 2019-2020 while studying in Scarborough.

You need both experiences to grow and develop. But at the end the solitude of living in the suburbs is great to really be alone and figure out stuff the Western way.

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Live at the stage of upper growth …

After working in the world, I saw the limits reached infinity.

Socializing with my family taught me real thinking and life.

You can live normally but that does nothing for you to grow maturely and with something that matters.

I heard time and time again that life is just the basics.

But living in the West it is more than that. You have to work and live and study and do stuff to feel good.

I reached this upper growth now.

But to have a family of your own is to live quite basic I think. You don’t want to cause trouble and don’t want to think greedy.

Just being able to live in Canada and have your needs met is good really???

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The problem with schools …

In 2006-2009, I went to back to school after working for almost 2 years.

Nothing in schools mattered really. Outside in the real world you are tested to the max and more.

I finished school without overstaying my visit in 2009.

I remember going to class in Winter 2009, and realized that life did not need school to do things in the real world as it was all up to you to do things by just working first. Your first job will teach you how the world works. School would teach you the basics but outside it is a hurricane of information and work you can do.

In 2008-2009, I went back to school for comp sci. I was going to take my time to do it. But quickly realized all the top students did not hang around school and had their own thing going on for them in their world and space and that moved things.

I left to work and do the same …

Not many people want to work. Comp sci taught you everything you need to know in the world basically. You could automate or do whatever you want with comp sci. That is the trick. Learning programming or comp sci taught you how to have skills and control things and partition things.

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The thing about relationships and family is that once you have an outsider marrying into your family, you can then really discuss life and all of its meaning and quirks so you understand and grow everything and more.

By saying what is in your heart and being open 100% then you sort through all your problems and difficulties and grow and leap above what you previously thought before and jump 100ft above.

That is why it is important to get married and grow surpassing old thinking, limited thinking and seeing the other side of life beyond yours.

Your life could be full of negativity and negative stereotypes about people and yourself. By marrying and over long term socializing and growing together you open up, grow and reach thinking and areas of the mind you never even heard or seen before.

That is the problem of being single. You don’t grow in depth if your partner is not thinking good and open and mature.

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The greatest tangible thing I did in life was wait it out to mature and do software. I did not start learning programming early enough to see all the benefits as I did not do my passions first and then develop the social networks later.

The most important thing was to understand the work of computers and how far it can go. That is what I learned from Allan Michael Lane from AMLCSL.com. After that, I understood the Western ways of life which is just honing your craft in technical skills for life in the West.

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