Updates (April 28, 2025)
I worked now and understand no one likes working really.
I hate work.
As a man, I have to work to build resilience, knowledge, leadership, growth and health.
That is the thing I was missing when I was young.
I had to work with people on my field and frequency to have anything.
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Like I am growing out in the West but I am still Vietnamese at heart.
My young Vietnamese heart wants to grow and improve.
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I know understand making money and saving for retirement.
But it is still growth and doing when you are retired or you die and don’t feel good.
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Blending Vietnamese thinking and Western thinking is different.
Basically at the end of the day you have to balance, combine and think how to manage your life and feel good and balanced.
But really, it is to do more and be more until you can’t no more.
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Again life is work. If you don’t work you die.
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It took me so long and I had mishaps along the way.
Basically I did not work in my field when I was young and tried to do other jobs just to get money and have things. I did learn somethings doing other things. But at the end it was doing what you love and eventually realizing web design and web development is where it is really good with the help of others.
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That is what I don’t get in society …
Some people criticize me and look at what I do negatively. I guess they haven’t experienced life yet I think …
The truth is if you don’t work you die and you must work with people who give you that opportunity and collaboration.
It is doing smart things and working. That is all you can do.
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I am getting unhealthy working.
I gained some weight.
I guess life is to balance that while doing your hobbies that give you health.
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I also understand everyone knows everything and how things work at childhood.
It is to work doing tech stuff.
But there are opinions fighting that because they haven’t been shown the true reasons.
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Now I understand Vietnamese thinking. It is balanced and wants to get along and collaborate.
This is after learning and understanding world history and culture.
But the deal is to influence and exert some power.
I guess you exert soft power that I have evolved myself overtime.
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50 years after the Vietnam War … what have I learned and achieved and evolved?
Well I got past the lazy stereotype. I was conditioned to be lazy outside in society but I am not.
I found that hard work, work and hobbies and breaks and blogging and interacting solved it.
That is the thing. When you are doing hard work, work then you experienced life. You graduate to the next level and think at the top tier of society.
No longer does stereotypes affect you because you did hard work, work that requires more than general thinking. That is what everyone needs to learn to appreciate life.
The go and forth of life is tiring but necessary. I used to let society dictate my life. But no that doesn’t make sense for long term health. People need the interacting and debating and learning. It is necessary for living on the next level.
I have to accept life is working on the next level.
Also the another thing. You actually have to think on your age range and just passively listen to elders or you get sick. You can not learn 100% what elder people say because that is degrading, tiring and unhealthy and impossible.
People your age range need the balance of nothing, waste and learn at their own pace.
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I have to think my way or I won’t be balanced. It is just my way. That is what it is.
My way did something.
Well I take my time and see what happens. I can not think negative or think my efforts are not worthwhile. I can not think about race or division either.
So when doing work like your hobbies, what comes from it is all that matters. I guess I figured out life.
Life is to do what matters to you and see the products after that really.
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Things that matter to me:
- Education
- Maths
- Addressing what you suffer from.
- Addressing what your people suffer from. What are the negative stereotypes you wish to evolve overtime.
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I also learned Vietnamese also share my same trouble in society.
I also learned that Vietnamese share my same thinking and lifestyle too. But because I am 41 years old it is different am older with my experiences in life.
I also learned people think Vietnamese are mixed but balanced and neutral. That is why there is hate, misunderstanding and downplay.
At the end Vietnamese get along with Vietnamese. Especially when they get older.
Power and ego is something different. I act the way I act. Therefore it is balanced. Some people say balanced is good and some say it is bad. I guess it is a mixed bag.
At the end the work and influence I do is based on my personality which is balanced and neutral, therefore all the influence I have is my hobbies and personal interests.
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I did not know you had to socialize with a large group of Vietnamese to understand and feel. I did not socialize for 37 years. I was stagnant for 30+ years out here in Oshawa and did not understand the concerns and wishes and my blood of being Vietnamese.
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I only get along with other mixed thinking people I see now.
When I was in university from 2006-2008, I hung out with only mixed people.
It makes sense now why I think the way I think now.
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Outside in the real world though is polarized. Not neutral.
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That is the thing about life in the world. All different cultures at least have their own food and it is worth trying.
So thinking polarized doesn’t really do much because some food or even inventions can come from places you wouldn’t think could make it.
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The stress and work life of the West can make people think their way is the only way right. It makes people smart and work hard and squeeze every penny but still doesn’t have all the inventions or opportunities because everyone has a different stressors and different lifestyles and pace.
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Also the thing about life I understand here in the West for coloured people and Vietnamese people is to evolve our thinking.
Lots of young people are thinking polar and that doesn’t help other people. When you reach an old age to see that it is wrong.
But at the end, people have to compete and challenge and improve ideas.
Then you go back and forth learning from each other.
At the end it is your daily experiences in life that create your products and dreams.
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I lived in Canada for about 40 years, I do know something of value I think.
My experiences might develop something that I can use at least.
That is the thing, the more you live in Canada as a Vietnamese person you learn and grow hopefully having a viewpoint worth sharing and entertaining.
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Also at my age of 41, you just got to work with people that elevate others. In my group we do.
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Also at my age, you can challenge and elevate at the same time.
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When I go out lots of people are really young. These people are doing lots of thinking downward and not open and not helping. As they are growing and competitive.
When you get old as me it is not worth it to go out sometimes and stay home on the computer and dabble away. But you need that outside experience though …
That is why I had to work with older experts in my field.
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What I learned about socializing more now.
I learned that most of what I have of value is from my experience. Well that is all I got and that is OK. What I have on the large view is just my experiences. I can not really ask for more. And people can not ask from me more than that.
But you got to try to see and do more after conflict and misunderstanding to evolve and they evolve.
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No one has time for everything, at the end you still do your thing but with more experiences.
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Even after all the experiences, you have to balance and do your thing you like and enjoy which will grow and evolve.
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I have family that are doing well in Vietnam. In high professions there.
That is the problem about living here in Canada when you are young. People compete hard and don’t give an ounce of room to let you think and debate or open. But sometimes you can offer a different stance or thought. But all this is just growth. The competition is normal.
Because I knew my family back home went hard in school there, I knew I had the potential too. At least getting a professional degree.
That is what saved me knowing my family back home has skills.
You can really be an expert in something. That is the thing people sometimes forget. You can solely devout so much time in an activity that you might have something.
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Everyone is connected.
I got to learn more about history of the world so I can understand Vietnamese better. No one is in complete darkness.
I did not believe it was worth learning before until now.
Now I got to learn how everyone thinks so I can be more and do more.
That is what schools and society don’t teach you. But now I think it is necessary to bridge the gap more.
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That is the cool thing about living in Canada.
You get a lot of misunderstanding but you do grow lots if you open your mind.
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The best growth at the end of the day is doing your own thing after learning generally. Therefore at least you have something different and possibly some value.
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I always get in misunderstanding when I don’t talk to people my age range. But sometimes it is necessary to talk to the whole range to see everything new and different.
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I was kept away from learning my culture while here in Canada. Now I know why.