Updates (March 20, 2025)

When I was eating out this morning, I realized there is “more good stuff” after socializing.

I was stuck in my room doing my thing because that is the best way to grow and feel good. You can not sit around doing nothing all day. You got to do something.

People in service industry learn and adapt quickly to the constant barrage of people they meet. I saw very intelligent nice people.

I went ahead and did my thing alone because that is the only thing that is needed here in Canada … for me. Just stay home connected with your friends online and doing your thing. Then when you step outside shopping and eating you meet the next level and next new wave of interactions. It could be good or bad but it is always growth and learning. The thing is constant learning so you grow and have something to strive and hope for.

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People criticize and complain and project negativity normally … but those people aren’t growing and have not learned that life is pretty much continuous growth after young adulthood. Something unique at the end as an old person.

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It will take awhile before my other siblings understand what I have learned throughout the years after socializing with Vietnamese born in Canada. Vietnamese born in Canada want something for their growth and spirit which is good to live for. There has to be something hopeful and something to strive for at the end which makes you feel good and neutral and calm.

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I believe this more so now. You have to have some culture to live by. I did not learn my Vietnamese culture and was stuck in limbo. My social and personal life was in limbo while I just worked and learned and studied.

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Things I learned about maturity:

• You have to be proud of something that is you. If you are born in the West that is something unique mostly.
• Thinking good, smart and abundant and open is good. It is probably the only thing that is worthwhile when you get older.
• You have to grow alongside people who feel the same as you to grow, grow. Otherwise you are living for nothing and stagnant with no love, family or job. This is especially true if you are coloured and in my case Vietnamese.
• As an old man you have to give full open support to the new generation so they grow strong and feel valued and feel unique. Feeling accomplished and unique is what drives me. I believe the same is for other young Vietnamese born in Canada/West.

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As an old man, I was lucky and did accomplish a few good things to keep me open, adaptable, forward and able.

Now I have to help the young generation.

But basically all it took was to do your thing at home alone without negative outside interference in my case. You have growth regardless just doing your thing so you feel proud in the world and have intelligence, smarts and growth.

You can do that here in Canada.

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Growing up with people with the same mentality is everything.

There is productivity and growth.

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Difference between born in Canada and immigrants, is that immigrants bring a fresh way to look at life most of the time. And also good food.

But that doesn’t work coming back home through. Unless you have learned to work remotely.

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I think it is because I was born in Canada that helped and did not help me …

There are a lot of bad avenues to go living in Canada … but there isn’t …

There was a lot of naysayers in my life even growing up in the 1990s and 2000s in Ajax, Ontario which is odd but normal.

But at this start of 2025, I realized the naysayers were racists.

I had to live in my culture I see now to have even anything positive. Even the slightest bit of positivity requires culture and growing up alongside people who think and feel the same as a coloured person.

If I don’t live in my culture there is no family, no same people friends or no growth. It is just working day-to-day until there is nothing left.

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Even working retail, there was just work and work and work until all that is left is work; working more efficiently. But no family and no time, no new fresh ideas for me.