Updates (July 7, 2025)

Acting young???

The media forces the youth to keep young and acting like teens.

But that does nothing for a Vietnamese man born in Canada. So I never really listened.

When I worked at the largest supermarket in my hometown nights, I found the truth and that is to work hard and develop yourself.

If you stay at home all day or don’t work, you become influenced to stay young and have young fun.

You got to work to see the truth.

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Even if I lived in Vietnam and had a family there, it wouldn’t be good or bad.

It actually depends on the child’s dreams mostly. Eventually the child would get old and realize they must work and prove themselves to themselves and to the world.

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What is the deal with Vietnamese born in Canada? What about from Vietnam?

Vietnamese from Canada think about society more and how to get along.

But actually everyone does if you get straight to the problem.

Vietnamese born in Canada usually explore ideas and try different thinking because they were raised to pause and think more with diversity in question.

Vietnamese from Vietnam get straight to the point.

Does that help? Yes and no.

For example, I took into consideration how direct Vietnamese from Vietnam are a few years back while still in school.

Then I really zoned out doing my thing for 2+ years and then got good results by being published.

That is what Vietnamese from Vietnam need to learn and experience from their interactions with Vietnamese from Canada.

Them being so direct made me go my way more, more ‘Western’, more me, eventually creating more good things.

So it is not bad. It is actually good.

But them being so direct like asking where is the real value is in what I am doing? Where is the money in this? helped me focus. Now they understand what happens from being so direct.

Eventually, their actions in the interaction creates more Western ways of production and it delivers Western solutions from their South Eastern ways. It goes full circle. I guess you can’t have one without the other. We then actually need both people.

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Independence and service work? …

My brother is still doing his thing. Makes me jealous that he has such good ideas …

But that doesn’t give him a family of his own and a stable paycheck.

Has he hit his peak??? No.

I hit my peak and am kind of lazy now for the last few months. I don’t care too much but I did learned and built a large brain to handle jealously better and can adapt. So peaking is required to handle life.

I am wanting to work routine jobs for a family of my own now like service jobs.

That is the problem of my life I realize.

Life gets boring if you don’t do stuff like my brother even when you are old.

But you never will have a family if you keep at it like my brother. But he hasn’t hit his peak so he is still at it???

Will I have to wait for him? and support him? Work for him? He needs my help. Or does he need to learn like me and do everything on his own???

He doesn’t see what I see that life requires stability and routine and living ‘bored’.

All my cousins and 2nd cousins live routine lives in Vietnam and have families of their own. They live for their children now.

I guess if you never peaked, then you can never have a family and routine life of your own.

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‘Older’ and old as me Vietnamese from Vietnam working in Canada are now reaching out to me to talk and give me advice. I hit ‘Vietnamese old man working era’ phase.

When I was a nobody (had nothing for external validation), Vietnamese or Asian people from overseas would not even talk to me really. But when I get this and that and am published, then the hardworking Vietnamese people start socializing with me giving advice on life when doing stuff and stuff like them.

I guess not many people really likes a person doing routine work??? Or am I in the wrong lane?

I guess that is what it is. But I know some people who don’t care for that external validation and have the mindset of being in the background knowing things are OK and in life everything is OK and you get something regardless of how fast or slow your life is …

But if I did not try to excel my parents way and the Vietnamese way, I don’t get a chance to see things that are forward, forward.

Then what is life for a coloured guy like me? I guess it is routine work like 90% of my high school classmates 20 years back. Again most of my cousins on my dad side did routine work and they have their own kids and family of their own.

I guess my genes wanted to do more and see more to get externally validated. Which is selfish and bad.

My father does a routine job and both my sisters too. I guess I go back to doing routine work and just have enough enjoying a cheap coffee now and a donut.

I think my dad and sisters never really peaked but constant routine work still gave them a life and they still have a head.

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Next phase of life is understanding staple routine jobs that Vietnamese usually do.

I know for a fact things will be also OK living and working Vietnamese jobs.

I need to explore that.

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I am still blogging and thinking and doing … a bit. You constantly think and grow because you have a brain now and it peaked …

I am seeing some people want to befriend me who just like my external validation??? …

Vietnamese/Asian culture is kind of like this. People want people moving and doing stuff.

But I am really Western inside like other Vietnamese born in the West really maybe??? I don’t care really.

But trying to do more and trying to do something is the Vietnamese culture in me too. It probably is part of my genes, at least my mom’s genes because I am a guy her son.

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But I peaked and kind of don’t care??? Like I still want and need to learn for myself and my satisfaction because I peaked and have a brain. A brain that still wants to fulfill its ego, stay in the game and want to feel good.

But most days I blog or work with my dad doing routine work.

What is life now then?

Consultation and thinking now?

When you have a brain then you are wanting and restless.

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It is odd being born and growing up in Canada. In the beginning it was just service jobs. Then you feel like nothing and then you try and then you want more and stuff and live educated to stay feeling good and relevant because that is the way everyone feels and fixes themselves???

Otherwise, if you don’t try and try and try, you live like ‘blah’ and complain and get sick.

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If I was born in Vietnam, I would be like every other student learning English in afterschool language schools wanting to come to the West wanting an American lifestyle.

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If you are born in Canada and you don’t work with Westerners or people born in the West things might become different.

The Western ideals get modified and you think things are just going and doing. It is still livable and productive. And that is what matters in Canada.

So there is nothing wrong with mass immigration. Work is still done and it is still livable.

But whatever … things will grow, go and develop and evolve completing the cycle.

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So what was it like being a Vietnamese born in Canada who parents are from the South and Mekong River?

Hard. I tried hard to succeed (eventually getting recognized) but it was kind of easy in Canada because of ‘Canada’ mostly. The Western experiences and learning helped. I did not fall into the traps of living too coloured/cultured and stayed by myself most of the time and with my family and friends. That is the real deal in Canada. Some people think they need to be engaged all the time front and center and also compete head on daily. But really …

You had your fill and upper limit of constant interactions. When you have done ‘your stuff for you and higher growth’ you don’t need the constant interactions with people. You learn that zoning out is the thing for 99.9999% satisfaction in health, growth and learning in the West for your health.

In Canada, the ‘Canadian way’ of elementary school teachers in grade 3 and TV channels like PBS and TVO showed you how to live really.

I also learned from South Asians. They have close family living that promotes living together and supporting each other and just doing school and staying at home studying a lot. It is normal from what I seen.

Some people think that wrong but it is right. The children understand quickly it was all studying engineering and medicine first to get that ‘big brain’ to handle ‘everything’. Books and skills and theory. They mature so quickly living in Canada.

They become doctors, engineers and software developers.

I guess I accept and learn from them because I am part South Asian too. I come from the area where it was a Hindu civilization 300+ years back.

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The people not doing routine work? What kind of people are they?

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What am I in Vietnamese in Canada?

The Vietnamese in general see me different from other groups.

I think now because I blogged about everything, I should live in the Vietnamese community now doing Vietnamese work. I figured and grew now and understand the landscape.

Just live a Vietnamese way of life in Canada with other Vietnamese. That will save me from always reaching and getting tired and ‘out there’.

So the jobs that are still Vietnamese are spa and nails, education, immigration, restaurants and medical.

I think I figured it out now.

There will always be Vietnam; Vietnam as a country and Vietnamese as a people.

I know both sides and more (Canada, Vietnam and other groups).

I can work with other Vietnamese now since I finally connected with older Vietnamese like me.

Before, I was socializing with younger people and people my same age and learned it all. We are at a standstill picking at straws after socializing for 4-5 years.

Once you get to the standstill then work in the Vietnamese community for a life too maybe.

There is also a retirement home dedicated to Vietnamese in Ontario: Golden Age Village for the Elderly.

There is a medical facility and recreation center in California for Vietnamese: Vietnamese American Service Center (VASC).

Tons of things to do and experience now after.

I have experiences and accomplishments that allow me to have a perspective to share now.

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