Updates (Feb 5, 2026)

So I am talking to Tammy Nguyen. I realize this:

• Vietnamese born in Canada accept the decisions I made in the past and don’t hold it against me.

For example, I did not do my dreams when I was young. My dreams were computers at grade 6 in 1996. I did not try until 2020 to do them. It was only when it was my last chance I did them and held on for 3 years to be able to do it.

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Back in university 20 years back, some nice people told me the truth about graduate studies. You have to be all in since you were like in high school to do research. This was in Scarborough.

I was told by the Asian area people how Asians think about research and graduate studies.

I was lost in Durham Region and missed out. I was having ‘my time’ around in Durham …

I thought I could latch on doing more in depth schooling but the people I am up against have been studying their own hobbies since grade 7 – 8.

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16 years later in 2021 I finally did my thing with my team software.

Somehow some Asians born in Toronto mature quicker doing their thing at an early age. Being around Asians as a Asian might be helpful and mature you quicker? Their parents don’t push them to do this or that. Some kids know how to overcome their immigrant parents and life itself to do life solo. Win over everyone. That is a huge accomplishment …

But I did not realize this until I talked to Vietnamese born in Canada. Tammy taught me the way of Vietnamese life here. Some kids are very serious while some have lived like whatever.

But in her case we are no different from any other folk. It is about maturity and doing more after this and that.

But for people born in Canada eventually people go for the check up and fix their laziness???

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That is why I stopped talking to immigrants. I had the opportunity to do life the Western way and finally did it. I am semi-retired now and do things I like.

Immigrants used to ask me why I am not this or that or have a 3-car house, 2 cars and a backyard heated pool and 401K from a Fortune 20 company at first interaction in the first 3.5 minutes.

After too many interactions with immigrants like that, I just hanged around with Canadians and did my thing and am semi-retired.

I guess we needed both. Immigrants scared me to death to think external why I don’t make $200K a year and have 2x PhDs.

While Canadians chilled with me over coffee and donuts.

I think we need both … Like the immigrant way is actually doable in time. Like you can anchor you mind there too just to look that far.

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So I went to the hospital the other day for my mom.

What did I realize?

You get polarized to take medicine and believe in medicine.

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