Updates (February 16, 2025)
I can relax now.
Just take the time to do things.
After trying hard for many years, accomplishing some things and now I can think somewhat, I can idle a bit.
Whatever happens, happens.
No panicking or rushing.
I don’t care now that the products and ideas I built are obsolete now. That was the trick. Not constantly pushing and doing.
I wanted to push and do and get recognition and possibly money but did not push, push, push.
I did other things that grew me also. That was the biggest trick too. Trying to do web development showed me how hard life could be.
Now I do what I can and feel most of the time. Pushing a bit.
I did not know life could be this way.
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There is two ways or more to think about people in society in the West.
- Your colour that is general: red, yellow, black, brown and white
- You origin nationality. People make assumptions based on your nations education and development
- Your default personality
- Your real intelligence in the real world. But that is kind of divided into young adult intelligence and middle-age intelligence. Like we are striving to be better and more among society but it is divided somewhat based on age and maturity.
- Young adult intelligence was striving for work and professional status kind of competing with other young adults. Trying to get along and fit in while striving for the job you want mostly. Trying to do “factory-work” based on Western stereotype ideals you learned growing up. You try to do better and better as a young growing person.
- Middle-age intelligence is striving for more in life and to be a better person and have that wisdom. After this I don’t know because I am middle-age and don’t have a family of my own yet.
That is why it is good and different to redo school again if you did not do well during young adulthood. That wisdom helps 1000%.
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What I learned living in the West.
Everyone kind of knows the place where your race fits in Western society.
In 2019, I was working outside. It did not feel right. I was wasting away everyday not doing much. I was looked down upon by some people at large. I never tried my hardest and did not try to seek the best life possible. I did not seek the best life possible for me in the West which I was allowed to do.
I met some people after that told me how to live my life in Canada for health, confidence, growth and smarts the best possible way. 2 people now showed me how to live. It felt right to listen to them. The first person is younger than me and it felt alright and I could follow. But now the second person was solid in helping me understand and feel better and complete because that person is around my age.
Now I am OK.
I guess that helping people like writing this blog and creating software God blessed me with the help I needed to grow as a Vietnamese-Canadian.
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The thing I learned at middle-age is that, thinking is growing. Sometimes beyond what people think. Sometimes beyond what people think at their max. Sometimes different and new entirely or maybe at a tangent?
That is what I have been learning from befriending people on the same culture and frequency.