Updates (January 17, 2025)
What I learned from trying to be independent since 2020:
- You learn to be content being alone because the harsh reality of doing healthcare work. You are judge 1000% and you want to strive for more. More to life??? Be more, do more and have more??? I guess you can say that … With enough socializing doing basic healthcare, you realize the socialization is pretty bad unless you have a past that is worth sharing and teaching.
- Only Vietnamese born in Canada or lived here long enough understand the big wide picture of stressful life here in Canada for Vietnamese born in Canada. You choose your stress really. If you want everything including the kitchen sink go ahead. But Vietnamese born in Canada have a choice to really to choose their life thinking like a Canadian which could be good or bad … The only Vietnamese person that went the healthiest pathway was a woman doing research at a university. The sister of my friend Tony. Everyone does what they want but I think that pathway was the “healthiest”.
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The biggest thing I learned so far in life is do things and be someone who strives for “health”. Whatever people say or do, choose your way which is health. I am at the age now that I don’t care and am on the decline both physically and mentally. So the only choice now is my health. Choose the healthiest way. Let other people know that too. If they are acting odd, let them know that their way is unhealthy at the end. I pretty much know the healthier alternative because of my circumstances.
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Also, I learned the old, old man thinking. I finally escaped to old, old man thinking to preserve my health and life.
A week ago, after helping my father with some banking problems, we went to a burger joint. I bought my dad a combo and myself a burger and we ate slowly and enjoyed.
I accomplished a great deal of things in my life and felt confident and accomplished. At the bank I was able to talk and socialize with the people there with self-esteem and confidence. I felt on par and recognized. No longer was I unsmart unfocused “young” man. The staff saw I had intelligence and my own thinking different from the general public. This is because I worked with Ben, Dmitry and others doing our own thing. That is what sets people feeling accomplished and specially recognized in the West.
When I ate the burger with my father, I felt the customers and staff recognize and acknowledge that I have done good grown up things.
I now have pushed myself into the far end of old, old man thinking and living which is so broad and thoughtful and healthy and well.
Western people recognize this. This is what good living is I think. This is what I fell into just doing my thing. Doing my intuition. Just follow your good intuitions. Well you have to when you get old LOL!
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I am learning and building the mindful and thoughtful mindset of life here in the West as a Vietnamese person. I see it as a combination of these helpful step-by-step conditions:
- Working doing your passion
- Then working with the greats
- Then doing something tangible for yourself: your projects
- Fine-tuning your projects
- Keep on working on your projects and fine-tuning
- Try working
- Try working broader
- Try working the broadest
- Keep working with the greats so they give you a scope that is manageable but largest
I guess a good life in Canada is to “work” but work to the point where you find work with the greats.
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