Updates (December 17, 2024)
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Something good to look at from someone older living in the West.
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So far my journey in life was OK. I always knew in the back of my mind it was education.
Now that is taken cared of, there is more …
I realize you can look at life 2 ways now. (1) in the present moment with all the emotions and impulses or (2) the broadest angle.
- Yes, you can live with just your impulses and play on the emotional rollercoaster with everyone but it is not that ‘happening’ when you are 33 years old with a weakening back and body working nights part time and the companies won’t give you full time unless you been at the company for 5-6 years.
- You live educated and aspire to do really in-depth thinking and soul searching and really out there thinking. This is while you are content with yourself and controlled while seeing everything pretty broad. This takes a lot of education and hard work and experiences to get to this level. It took me 40 years and I am still not broad enough, it is always ongoing. This require more education and further specialization and work to build that huge level of depth. I believe this requires a lot of levels. The key is to keep leveling up and down to have ‘that range’. Western people understand this very well and they show you when you interact with them. All you can do is add something more and different. But the key is to have that open mind to see openness and the open door to walk through and see through. The more ‘coding’ you do you see things very well. I am not sure about maths and physics but coding has given me a way to see very far and very open.
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You realize after finishing school, working and socializing and then socializing with your Vietnamese born in Canada groups, you see unlimited depth and 1 million perspectives they have seen and interacted with. Vietnamese who are born in Canada and are middle-aged see through the general stereotypes and live life with full ~40 years of comprehension and openness. You no longer want to deal with people who are not experienced and not old. You have a frame of mind that is defined by age and experience when you interact with people your age born in Canada.
That means schools and most work places are not worth it when you are old. You have to work outside basically on your own with other old people with the same life experience and same perspective for that depth and connection.
I always had a problem going to school. No one understood me and it was 99.999999% ‘biased’. It has to be.
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After I stopped working for a while and then was reflecting after in this blog, my cousins back home in Vietnam see what I talk and write about in this blog makes sense and applause me. So I am on track …
For a 40 year old Vietnamese guy trying to wing it in the West, I am doing things right. But it was all middle-age and getting old though. After hitting 25 years old way back then in 2008, nothing was fun no more really. I was all on my own really.
The reality sets in at 25 years old.
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Life is pretty good now after all the socializations, I learned my middle-age look and aura is actually good now. Most people respect you now.
I look old and young men look away seeing a mature old man who wears old mature clothes. The young mans world is lots of trouble and attention seeking and vying for acceptance, approval, respect and challenges. But you learn from it. Mostly walk away from it doing your own thing really. You really can not attend to all your wants and wishes and others. It is just one want, doing your own thing. Doing your own interests. This way it encapsulates life entirely and the drive and growth for a man.
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What I don’t realize …
- My life is good regardless of anything. Sometimes I don’t realize my life is OK already … I am ashamed. I realize this now. It took me to try and try and try and I ended up seeing negative things and negative people. Lots of negative people. I tried for lots of growth and met the ‘100% growth seekers’ at the end. Makes you wonder what is life at this point. But again it is just your interests at the end, right? What is your specialization?
- For health, growth, respect and pleasure … I see life now as specialization and interests. Super, super, super focused. 20+ years of focusing to be firm and confident. At this point it is not about people or naysayers. It is that tunnel vision for your interests and specialization.