Updates (November 6, 2024)

After socializing a ton with Vietnamese people from all parts of the world, I grew and grew.

By socializing with Vietnamese more accomplished and more educated than you in your field, you learn to grow and do the same and try to excel.

When you go out into the world, then you can challenge other people’s beliefs and status.

My life turned around when I socialized with Vietnamese. I was held to their standards. There was “something there” that you had to show and prove.

I stay home most of the time learning and growing my craft to impress and grow. This is normal in every culture I presume if you look hard enough.

When I go outside, I understand myself in the context that I have my core likes and passions like other Vietnamese people in Vietnam because I grew like them since 2017 after meeting them in college.

Without the “Vietnamese feeling” I would be blah and laxed doing nothing much I think.

I grew so much as a “Vietnamese educated programmer” by socializing mainly with Tan Vu (John).

After seeing him grow and grow and get more experience and degrees, I have a trajectory to learn from and grow from. It is “very Vietnamese”.

I can reflect and conversate with him and we both grow together sharing our experiences. My experience is from the West and his is from Vietnam and he is younger. I have ways of living that make me ground, mature and happy. While he is doing all cool attaining accomplishments and experiences.

Now when I go in public, I have this solid understanding, being and way. When people see me and socialize with me, I have this solid persona. This is now true after finishing school for over a year. Staying outside of school you have to build. Build yourself rather than be laxed and complain.

Now I can take my sweet time and not be so rushed and pushy in doing things as I have a solid pathway and understanding how to set and get goals.

I just sit there and do stuff without really any care no more because I know any more is too pushy.

Time has stopped and I just slowly turn the page and work on things without the constant rush and overhanging unlimited dreadful goals and milestones I think I used to have to achieve quickly being born here in the West.

I guess life required me to socialize with like minds and like people first.

Now I just coast.

It required me to accomplish a lot to a point anymore is really excess.

Relaxing and having fun all the time and just doing stuff that is your hobby and passion doesn’t get you here. It requires you to study a lot and do a lot.

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I was taught life was all fun and games growing up. But it isn’t.

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Also seeing people who are different from you and at different stages in life than you gives you perspectives.

I am not continually working and doing my craft. Other people are so fixated on doing theirs. It makes you wonder how far apart are you and how different people are. Especially if they are from Vietnam and also have that independent spirit.

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But life was to keep going and achieve a lot of education and skills till a point where you know a lot and are settled and any more is just takes effort but not a strain.

People say life is all fun and games and just kind of chilling. But working hard is the totally good. When you reach that high level then life is sweet. You just kind of coast after. You kind of just sit around drinking coffee and doing mind stuff. Now most tasks aren’t really that hard to do.

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After school and just living, the goals and mindset are different. You are supposed to build and make stuff I think at this stage in life. You are suppose to find solutions and make things better. There is nothing to it than that.

You don’t stand around and idle. You don’t depend on no one.

The connection and collaboration is not really needed as now you are alone.

Going to school for decades helped me get my knowledge and meet the right people but now I am old and by myself. The time is to do stuff on your own and learn on your own.

The feelings and bright wishes and dreams during school and youth are gone. You are now alone. You got to do stuff. You got to figure this out. But it is easy as you are in Canada. It just takes time. The constant rush and push are gone once you hit a high level of skill. Life was all about high skills and knowledge at the end I think.

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