Updates (Dec 7, 2025)
The lifestyle of doing nails, computer technician work, and having a mother who is a stay-at-home mom.
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Vietnamese that do beauty work is great. They allowed me to see into their lives through Facebook and Instagram posts.
Over the years following, I learned from viewing and interacting. If there were no posts on Facebook or Instagram, I would not understand the beauty Vietnamese network.
I then learned and did stuff with that knowledge. I learned from my Vietnamese brothers and sisters that do beauty work.
I would not have this unless there was that outlet to see and learn from.
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My mom is the oldest female in the family. My mom is the oldest female on her side.
Because she is the oldest she is wandering almost aimlessly in the West as Vietnamese are newcomers to the West.
She learns from YouTube, she tries to live well daily doing this and that. She is trying to lead her family in the New World.
She is old. She is born in 1952. She is one of the oldest Vietnamese Boat People.
I learn and learn and learn and connect and connect and connect to the outside to teach my mom and family that there is more than Oshawa, there is more than GTA, there is more than Canada. There is the Old World that thinks of us too. There is dynamism with the New and Old World and you must play in it.
But my mother is a stay-at-home mother now. She needs input from her children to stay educated.
YouTubing doesn’t show the real raw deal of social interactions and networking like what I do all day networking with Mexicans, Canadians, Americans, Russians, Ukrainians, Germans, British and etc. through my team projects.
But that is what you get. You have a mother who is stern with a negative perspective (This could be the right way as she is the oldest. Old people are usually negative and have to be negative as they lead into the unknown) and with narrow limited focus as a stay-at-home mom now. So I aid however I can and teach her. It is all about balance.
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Going up in the 1990s, I knew of Oshawa was a cool place when I was living in Ajax.
Oshawa had this allure. It has an automobile industry and computers to design the latest cars and other stuff.
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Then I realized this later in life after doing my thing too to present …
Computer technician work is really it. It is how you can do it and live.
Yes, my computer programming work was different and good.
But computer technicians are immensely smart, like the top smart because they know how to live.
You can be Einstein and Elon Musk, but the technician knows how to live calmly and deal with people and everyday life to have a life and kids and a family.
The ongoing work that is 24/7 running a computer repair shop. Trying to deal with a lost JPEG photo or installing a network for a small to medium business keeps you running forever. The amount of knowledge you need is unlimited in computer repair and services.
If you have kids while working as any type of technician then the kids will grow up 100x fast (by the age of 8 they are like 21 year old adults by helping their father at the store) understanding life is about keeping constantly busy to maintain the world.
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Yes it is OK and great to program and develop your own software. But that is so out there and on such a tangent that it can mess up your life and not live normal.
Working and living like a computer technician you are smart and worldly, you can understand programming but it is not really worth it as a lifestyle when you are 45 years old unmarried with no kids.
There are milestones you have to meet and gauge what is important in life.
You can program forever and have kids but that is risky … ??? You might spend all your time programming the next thing which uses 200% of your energy so you feel depleted all the time.
At the end you are supposed to do the hard stuff like programming but the end point is unknown … you don’t know when you can have kids and a proper family while programming.
As a technician you wait until the developers release an update patch and you can sit there enjoying your coffee and say “We got to wait and get an update as there might be bugs. Let’s go get donuts.” It is a game of balance as a computer repair store owner. You just have to learn to sit there and wait for a patch.
Yes, women would love to marry the Wild West guy but that ain’t realistic. Once she is 25 years old she has to be realistic as men need a family and a couple of kids and computer technician work has its pluses.
I have been on a tangent since 1995 and still have no kids and a wife … so you got to factor in that.
I went on a tangent because I was born in Canada and that got me too different for many women and my needs are so different and that is a problem when you are educated this way … But you can relax and settle down as a technician.
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If you even look farther up … sometimes being on a tangent and trying to have a family can work … but that is so “What the heck???”
Better to work as a book keeper and have a family for that solid paced work with guaranteed goals???
Do you really want to live like the greats? Yes. Every man wants too really.
I am scared because I am Buddhist and Vietnamese. I came from the lush overgrown Mekong where all day I like eating Vietnamese stewed pineapple chicken with rice.
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