Updates (June 6, 2025)
People do stuff to solve stuff.
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I need to solve my problems.
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What is the next problem? Well it is learning to help build SophiApp.
I am going through page after page understanding proper system design.
Previously before I was living for myself having fun building Wrappers.
Now true growth is happening building proper apps.
It is tiring and boring but its proper life as a normal programmer.
I could still do web development but that makes me flustered.
I rather build apps for now so in the future I can go build another app with the same structure properly.
It is going to take time.
So now some coffee and browsing GitHub of SophiApp code.
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The thing no one tells people is ‘the normal life’ after doing your thing. If you just live normally you eventually just get old and get everything like everyone else that has stuff. You get all the education by living normally in time.
Once people get to what they want in life, for example graduate level studies, the next step is what to do after. You have to be so done doing your thing really. Then you graduate doing normal stuff and look at life normal like the 4 seasons. You get all the education and experience you need and want and that is natural in the West.
That is the kicker in life. Sometimes certain people don’t allow for some people to grow …
Living normally in the West probably in your 40s, you overcome everything just living day-to-day as you just learn all the things outside just by drinking coffee and running your daily life routine and errands. Life just progresses normally and everyone learns to do what they want. Eventually the young stuff of problems with people, the squabbles with people, people that stopped you from growing mean zero. Life just progresses and people just walk by and drink their coffee and buy their donut.
People that stop people are stopping themselves. I think everyone has experienced some people like that in their lives.
Eventually every person minds get so big that it is ‘What the heck? People actually tried to stop people?” Life progresses and things just come on in and goes.
If you could not do school then you just eventually learn everything outside in time as you just pleasantly just walk. School is not all it is in life. I learned this far just walking the long path outside school. It came just normally overtime I guess as I just did stuff in safe Canada.
Life just moves on as the world outside moves and the world is bigger than schools.
As a Vietnamese man … stuff happens sometimes but living normally fixed it. Everyone gets old and learns everything.
Life becomes bigger than ‘now’. You realize this day-by-day. It is the cycle of life and growing.
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Culture and race is something for people when they are young and immature.
Once people have like 3 children and are in their 40s, then the nice mature way of living takes over. That is to be open and broad.
Everyone learns this one day if they stay calm and walk and drink their coffee.
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When you get old, old, old.
You actually don’t think about people as anything after getting old, old, old. The time in between getting old, old, old is a growing maturing thing.
People do stuff to grow and learn. The end point is that you are old, old, old where you are thinking singularly.
The learning phase is understanding people and the complexity of people from light to dark and all the learning stages to get to old, old, old.
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The secret to my life was waiting it out … but everyone feels this and wants this.
Vietnamese men and Vietnamese women deep down know the secret to a good ‘Vietnamese life’.
All Vietnamese want a life that is mature. They want a person that is so mature that it is more satisfying than anything else. Maturity makes people want and thrive. It is the essence to everything that is life really.
But when you add productivity but modern 21st Western productivity then that is what Vietnamese want, want.
And when you got a hold of that and can run with that, then you lived the good life that is healthy and go go.
‘Running with my skills’ took me 3+ years to build from 2021. I can do most programming with ease now and understand complex problems because I put 3+ years of maturing and trying harder after achieving my personal goal projects.
With the support of Tammy Nguyen, I learned this and sought this ‘essence’ nature.
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I only talk to people that naturally think blended, positive, sometimes realistic for returning to baseline, outside themselves really and meta. I think that is needed for everyone to befriend with and bond.
If you talk to people that are so self-centered and not about ‘ideas’ then that goes too emotional and causes havoc. Sometimes you can learn and talk through that type of talk. It is needed. Like a jolt. But you should talk to people who think meta 99.99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the time.
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Some people think a certain way that sometimes helps and sometimes doesn’t help.
It might depend on maturity and culture. But mostly maturity 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the time.
Sometimes bias interactions grows a person. The clash sometimes allows people to turn a page on both sides.
Again that requires maturity. And that requires tons of experiences and study.
Eventually everyone is on the same page after they hear each other out and gone through the squabbles.
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Great thing about getting this old still studying …
I am seeing other Vietnamese who study too and they are my age. Finally after socializing with Vietnamese born in Canada like Tammy Nguyen, she helped me focus more on my individual goals and grow me and now I meeting more Vietnamese who study too.
I am seeing quite a number now.
Vietnamese have a small population and the people I am seeing are stellar.
So that is what happens when Vietnamese born in Canada find each other like Tammy and I. We grow each other. Then we talk mature stuff and talk about meta forward things.
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I did not know I had problems understanding race, culture and the West. I was living aimlessly before just doing whatever.
After understanding Vietnamese identity, I understand why I get the problems I get. Tammy Nguyen told me to understand world history and Vietnamese history and language.
After learning with her support for 5 years, I overcame most problems because you notice everything and overcame.
You realize you need to learn as you can not stop learning and your brain does not stop reacting to negativity.
Then you just get old and people who give you problems are just young people.
You stop caring about race and culture as you gotten over everything. Time passes to a point that you just bypass whatever people think as there is life and better things ahead and bigger things than race and culture. As you get smarter, race and culture becomes a small thing.
The more and more biased people react toward you, the more you and your body react back and overcome the silliness of emotions based on race and culture that stop you, stagnant you and your growth. Then you just get smarter as well as they do. Then everyone is happy being a little bit smarter. But I had to be smart first. Tammy Nguyen pushed me to live for myself and ignore biased treatment.
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Everything is math-based, everything is solution-based to thrive and go go.
The software solutions I created were a part of my struggle growing up and also what I thought was needed in the market.
But the reality as a man over 35 years old, you are looking to ‘create solutions’.
That requires a huge amount of time which translates to research and development. That is the Western approach.
By living life outside school, you can actually make real solutions that can apply to daily lives of others.
That requires decades of life experiences outside maybe. Or you grew up fast.
So don’t fret. In time in safe Canada, if you are born in Canada, take life easy and don’t get tied up too much in doing so much for the sake of trying to be valued right now that it permanently hurts you so badly. I tried so hard before and got hurt so maybe you should try so hard just to know the pain and scars???
It took me since grade 6 in 1996 to 2021 to develop software that solved my problems and reflected me. Thanks to Canada for having this opportunity and friends in Canada (Tony, Tammy and Ben) who understand the big picture and more to life.
If you don’t go the math-based growth approach then you are tied to boxed cultural thinking and that doesn’t elevate you or anyone else.
Also I am just old, old so you see and think logically now.
For a Southern Vietnamese man like me from Mekong river area, you have to go the math-growth approach to avoid situations where bias interactions is present. When you introduce logic, math, growth, self-study, self growth, seeking solitude, self-accomplishments and unique growth that settles basically 100% of bias interactions. I wouldn’t understand this fully from both sides of the coin until I met Tammy Nguyen. Tammy Nguyen solidified this and it keeps growing.
At the end you are looking to solve things out in the world. Being old will make you seek universal realistic solutions even when you are coloured.
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